fitness

What’s your fitness era?

Philosopher Nick Riggle wrote a great post over on Substack about “era” as a way of thinking about different times in our lives.  Riggle’s The Eras Tour Through Life is, of course, based on Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour.

When we think about organizing in life in frames, we often think of life chapters, but Riggle–along with a bunch of feminist philosophers– worry that chapters can be pretty constraining. Not all life stories have the kind of narrative structure that goes along with chapters. Chapters are also connected with the liberal idea of the self as a career. You know, The Years of Preparation, The Years of Struggle, the Minivan Years, and so on. Chapters require progression, beginnings and endings, and closure and many of our lives lack this. (I talk about this in my very old paper, Feminist philosophers turn their thoughts to death.)

So maybe we should join the Swifties and embrace eras instead?

Writes Riggle, “Personal eras are another kind of frame. They are a bit like narratives but without progression from beginning to end. And they are a bit like labels but without as much built-in social structure, and with the built-in assumption of being temporary—at some point the era is over and a new, potentially disconnected era begins.”

“Thinking of oneself as being in a partying era, a healing era, a flop era, or a villain era suspends the demand for narrative coherence and replaces it with something lighter and more fluid and provisional. An era does not need to justify itself by what came before or what comes after. It does not have to pay off or resolve into some other chapter. Nor does it need to frame our agency by framing our selves and structuring our identities. It only needs to hang together thematically for a while and then…embrace the asteroid.”

“One of the joys of eras is how creative you can be with them. Want to leave parties, evening gatherings, and late work functions earlier to get better sleep? Try the Irish exit era. Want to focus more and be more productive? Enter your monk mode era. Want to embrace chaos and accept looser standards for yourself? Enter your hot mess era. Many academics would benefit from entering their ‘piss off’ era and systematically declining the many requests for their free labor from predatory publishers and university administrators (to name two of roughly one billion sources). I am currently in my ageing Millennial adornment era, embracing more tattoos and jewelry.”

I taught an upper-year philosophy class a couple of years ago on life-stages, and we could have used the Riggle-Swift idea of life’s eras. Many of my students didn’t feel at all comfortable with traditional life-stage talk, partly, I suspect, because they might not be living lives with the usual markers of adulthood–moving out, financial independence, marrying, buying a house,  having children, and so on.

What appeals to me about eras is the creativity and the playfulness. As Riggle notes, eras are low stakes.

Here on the blog, I think we’ve all written about our different fitness lives.

Cate’s asked How many fitness lives do we get?

Tracy and I have written about coming to think of ourselves as “adult-onset athletes” and the change of identity that involved. Now, Tracy has moved into her 60s and is thinking about fitness as sustainability.

Me, I’m thinking about this as my time to be an outdoor adventurer and I’m considering endurance, rather than speed and power as my fitness goals. It’s a shift. See From beast to bunny? Sam is thinking about her fitness future and about changing the focus of her bike training.

What I like about the era-talk is that past eras can re-emerge. It’s not a one-way fitness track from competitive athlete to aging aquafit participant, maybe with some pickleball thrown in the middle. I’ve really been struggling with the way people talk about giving up things as they age. I’m a very curious person who likes learning new things. I don’t expect that to change as I get older. I very much want to resist the narrative of life narrowing and slowing down. I’ve written here about aging and expanding one’s world, so I think I’ll talk about fitness eras, instead of chapters with all that implies about endings and conclusions.

How about you?

What’s your current fitness era?

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fitness · rest · self care

Sick Day(s): How Christine Spent The Weekend

I had a few “off” days at the end of last week.  I couldn’t really tell if I was just tired, if my allergies were acting up, or if I was getting a migraine. 

It didn’t even occur to me that I might actually be sick until Saturday afternoon when my head suddenly weighed about ten thousand pounds, my throat was sore, and I started sneezing.

Luckily, I didn’t have many plans this weekend and I could easily shift things around to make room to rest.*

Here’s what that looked like:

I wasn’t quite in ‘lie-around-and-read’ mode so I spent a long time playing with paints and markers and paint markers.

While drinking approximately 1.5 million cups of tea, of course. **

a tea mug
My favourite Tarot card – The Empress – on a mug sprinkled with gold stars. You probably could have guessed this was mine. 🙂 Image description: My mug is sitting on a folded red cloth napkin and both are resting on my worn wooden kitchen table. The mug is white with a black handle and black interior. The white parts are sprinkled with gold stars and in the middle is a black and white image of The Empress, a woman in a crown and flowing robes with a scepter in her right hand.

I had a lot of fun with this video from Art Therapy with Sana

A video from Art Therapy with Sana called ‘Feeling Overwhelmed? Try this Klimt Pattern Art Practice. Still image shows a patterned painting in shades of red, brown, and gold. On the left side of the image is a woman in red robes, the woman’s face is cut from a magazine. The rest of the image is made up of vertical sections framed in wavy lines and each section is filled with a different pattern – spirals, ovals. dots. Behind the first artwork is another work that features a collaged image of a woman with patterns drawn around her in gold and black.

Here’s what mine turned out like:

a small painting that's fairly abstract except for a drawing of a woman's face between two sections of the drawing that kind of look like a robe.
My version of the first painting from the art therapy video posted above. The colours are shades of red, purple, yellow, pink and gold that work well together (I hope!) Near the centre of the painting I have drawn a woman’s face looking out between two sections that form a robe. The rest of the painting is formed from wavy lines that mark off different sections that contain different patterns of squares, circles, dots, lines and spirals.
a decorative artwork with a photo of a woman surrounded by a variety of patterned sections
My version of the second painting from the video. I cut out a picture of a woman in a blue and green patterned dress – you can see her from the waist up- she is leaning towards her right shoulder and looking down. The rest of the painting is divided into sections filled with patterns – squares, spirals, grids, circles, and squiggles, all patterned in green, yellow, and blue.

And since I like to listen to podcasts while I draw, today I chose Old Gods of Appalachia – a horror anthology show with incredibly strong writing, world-building, and performances. (Yes, I do like spooky stuff!)

When my head got too heavy I tried the exercises in this video. They helped a lot.

One Move to Quickly Relieve Sinus Congestion – YouTube

And I borrowed some moves from Joelle here:

Yoga for Sinus & Cold Relief – Feel Better in 10 minutes!

When I needed a nap on Saturday, I did Yoga Nidra: Yoga Nidra For Sleep & Rest | The StillPoint

And on Sunday, I fell asleep to some ghost stories from the Classic Ghost Stories Sleep Compilations.

My husband thinks it’s pretty funny to fall asleep to ghost stories but the stories on Classic Ghost Stories are more ‘creeping dread’ than ‘scar them with the horrors’ kind of tales and Tony Walker is an excellent narrator.

My weekend wasn’t all art and ghost stories though, I also did my usual stuff – walking the dog, making meals, puttering around, but at a much slower pace than usual. 

It is no fun to be sick but being ‘too sick to go out’ and ‘not up to doing much at home either’ was a great reason to prioritize rest, creativity, and taking good care of myself. 

What are your go-to activities when you are feeling under the weather?

*As I write this on Monday afternoon, I am feeling better than I was on the weekend but still not great. I actually ended up having to reschedule a dentist appointment AND a mammogram so I could keep my germs at home instead of taking them on tour to various medical facilities.

** Don’t worry, it wasn’t all caffeinated. I alternated between Cold 911 from David’s Tea, Ginger Peach, Chocolatey Chai, Wild Sweet Orange, (no caffeine so far!) and black tea (there’s the caffeine!) with the occasional foray into boiled water with lemon, candied ginger, and honey. I also drank regular old cold water.

competition · fitness · Olympics · skiing · snow

Nordic Combined: Why Women are Excluded from This Winter Sport

What I read: Women aren’t allowed to compete in one sport in the Winter Olympics as athlete details heartbreaking truth

What is Nordic Combined?

“Nordic combined is a winter sport that combines cross-country skiing and ski jumping. The competition begins with a jump from a hill – rather them than me – before doing a 10km cross-country race later that same day. Whoever wins the first jump competition starts the race with a time of 00:00:00, whereas all other athletes start with a time disadvantage based on their scores in the first jump.Then, like how most races work, the first to cross the line wins.”

Why no women? Some say not enough audience, others say not enough countries could take part, or not enough women are ready for the event… there are many different reasons given,  but it seems to me the principle of equal access in sports ought to trump those reasons. If both men and women can’t compete, then we ought not to include the sport in the Olympics.

Read, I Should Be Competing at the Olympics—But My Sport Excludes Women: Only men are allowed to participate in Nordic combined skiing, but I’m not done fighting for my place by Annika Malacinski (Self)

“In 2022, I was somewhere over the Atlantic, flying home from a training camp in Slovenia and watching a live broadcast as the president of the International Olympic Committee announced decisions for the 2026 Games. I kept refreshing the livestream as it buffered and froze (the overpriced Wi-Fi was pretty wonky), waiting for him to reveal the plans for Nordic combined. I was barely blinking, barely breathing. Minutes felt like hours. I kept checking, thinking maybe I’d missed something. But the truth is it would not have mattered if I had missed his announcement. Of course, I didn’t miss it. Even worse, l knew what the IOC president would say even before he completed the sentence: Women wouldn’t be included in Nordic combined racing in the 2026 Winter Games.”

Maybe it’s about to change?

Read: One Olympic sport still excludes women. This week’s viewing numbers could change that (NPR)

“Sports federations, advocacy groups and athletes all say Nordic combined, while niche, has grown in recent years — especially at the youth level — and are lobbying for the IOC to include it in 2030.

The IOC says it will conduct a full evaluation after the 2026 Olympics in order to make a “decision on the inclusion of Nordic Combined for men and women” in 2030 — meaning it’s possible Nordic combined could be removed from the roster altogether. It is expected to make a decision at its annual meeting in June.”

fitness

Some of Sam’s favorite recent exercise studies

This isn’t one of Catherine’s useful informed research round-ups. This is just me, telling you which studies I’m happy to hear about mostly because they talk of the benefits of things I have and thing I enjoy–big legs, riding bikes, and lifting heavy things.

Enjoy!

Brain health and leg strength linked

Strong legs linked to brawny brain

Fit legs equals fit brain, study suggests

Want a Healthy Brain? Don’t Skip Leg Day

A woman demonstrating a ballet pose while holding one leg stretched high and reaching towards a turquoise exercise ball, with soft lighting from sheer curtains in the background.

Bike riding is also good for brains

Mind Matters: The Mental Health Benefits of Biking

Six minutes of vigorous bike riding boosts the brain

Cycling May Lower the Risk of Alzheimer’s

Read also CNN To protect your brain against dementia, start pedaling, study suggests

A group of cyclists riding along a wooded path during autumn, surrounded by colorful trees.

Weight lifting also helps your brain and the health benefits of lifting last for a long time

Weightlifting at retirement age keeps legs strong years later, study finds

The Surprising Brain-Health Benefits of Weightlifting And it doesn’t matter how heavy your weights are.

Strength Training Boosts Brain Health, According to New Study

Two black dumbbells with a chrome screw handle on a dark background.

fitness · nutrition · research · Science

I love coffee, I love tea; when it comes to dementia risk, they love me

Yes, yet another study has come out linking some food/beverage product to increased/decreased risk of something-or-other. In this case, however, it’s about how coffee (and also tea) lower dementia risk and modestly better cognitive function.

I’ll drink to that.

The eight shades of coffee.Thanks Nathan D from Unsplash for the photo.
Many shades of coffee.Thanks Nathan D from Unsplash for the photo.

These results were drawn from very large cohorts of healthcare professionals in the UK that have tracked behaviors and conditions over 40+ years. So this is not a randomized controlled trial. Still, this is how researchers find connections between habits like drinking coffee and health outcomes. So, what did they find this time?

There was a statistically significantly reduced dementia risk, with lowered risks for higher caffeine intake (up to 4 cups a day of coffee, 2–3 of tea; no improvements reported for higher daily intake).

There were very modest reductions in subjective cognitive decline (self-reported by participants) and objective cognitive decline (performance on cognitive tests) in the caffeine consumers. Again, the reductions increased along with caffeine intake, but hit saturation at 4 cups of coffee a day.

A notable fact about this study is that they were able to distinguish the effects of caffeinated coffee and tea (vs. decaf beverages). Caffeine is reported to be neuroprotective and anti-inflammatory (I could insert fancy text from the study, but trust me, it’s very science-y).

But, we also know that caffeine is NOT good for everything that ails us. It can affect sleep quality and cause all sorts of bad upper GI symptoms. But not everything that’s good in one way is good in all ways. That’s simply not coffee’s fault.

So, all’s I’m saying is, Coffee doesn’t drink coffee; people drink coffee…

Oh, and one more thing: I love this ditty– Java Jive– performed here by the Manhattan Transfer. Enjoy with a steaming mug.

Olympics · Sat with Nat

Nat’s riveted by women’s Olympic hockey

I do love the Olympics but I’m especially enamored with the Winter Olympic Games. I joke it’s about hurtling down mountains and doing complicated things on ice. It’s INTENSE.

Olympic rings against a blue sky

I remember the first time women’s hockey was in the Olympics, 1998. I was just out of college, newly married and completely obsessed with the hockey tournament.

The women on that first national hockey team were absolute legends and Canada has built a reputation for excellence ever since.

The competition is small as few nations can put forward a women’s team. This will likely change as the Professional Women’s Hockey League will continue to generate excitement and opportunities in women’s hockey.

Canada is playing Germany in the quarterfinals today. I can’t wait. I will spend most of this long weekend crafting and cooking while hockey is on.

A hockey net sits on the ice in an arena.

I do love in this era of streaming I can seek out and watch all of the women’s events. The CBC Gem app is a godsend. Women’s events are no longer relegated to the prime time highlight reel, they are front and center. Go sports!

bras · fitness

Tight Sports Bras and Acid Reflux

For about a dozen years now I’ve had issues with heartburn.  It’s more than the occasional thing you can treat with tums or whatever.  Don’t worry.  I’m seeing a doctor.  I have access to good medical advice. That side of things is under control. I take medication that mostly works.

And of course I’m also looking for the easy things I can do to limit episodes of acid reflux and heartburn so that the drugs work all the time. You likely know the drill. This issue is pretty common.  Limit coffee, chocolate, and fried foods.  Don’t eat close to bedtime.  Get some movement in after dinner.  It’s all the usual healthy stuff.

But I learned a new thing after talking with Victoria about bras. Bras can be part of the problem.  I had wondered why the heartburn issue was often worse after riding my bike or going to the gym.  Turns out it might be my sports bra that’s to blame. 

I’ve read the following articles and I’m going to try out some more gentle, less constrictive bras. I’ll report back.

Women in sports bras kneeling on the gym floor

Activewear Dos and Don’ts for Heartburn Sufferers

“Heartburn sufferers often find that their symptoms are triggered or worsened by tight clothing. Elastic waistbands, snug-fitting tops and restrictive shapewear can place unnecessary pressure on the midsection and encourage stomach acid to escape through the lower esophageal sphincter. Once this stomach acid reaches the esophagus, it can aggravate the delicate esophageal tissues and cause that burning sensation known as heartburn.”

The Surprising Side Effects Of Wearing A Bra

“If you’re having some gut issues like acid reflux, your bra might be to blame. Yes, really. Wearing a bra (every day) that’s too tight can place a lot of pressure on your midsection, especially a tight sports bra, according to the Maryland Surgery Center. They recommend you buy a bigger size if you notice that your sports bra hugs your ribcage a little too affectionately.

“Tight clothing, such as Spanx, on the abdomen can increase intra-abdominal pressure to the point that one can experience acid reflux from acid being pushed from the stomach into the lower esophagus,” says Dr. Heather Downes (via Healthline). If you notice your acid reflux getting worse or start experiencing it for the first time after you start wearing a new bra, there’s a good chance that it’s the culprit.”

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Woman in pink shorts and bra top

advice · challenge · fitness · goals · habits · planning

To do lists

If, like me, you’re a habitual maker of lists, you know how enjoyable it can be to make one. I want to tell you about the two kinds of lists I tend to make.

The first type is a detailed, four-quadrant list that is legibly handwritten in a spiral notebook. It’s a strategy I learned from leadership training years ago: draw two lines bifurcating the left and right, top and bottom of the page. Top left: IMMEDIATE to-dos. Top right: TODAY to-dos. Bottom left: TOMORROW to-dos. Bottom right: LATER THIS WEEK. Now there’s four lists! 🤩

This 4-list system has helped me triage competing demands and deadlines in a busy life schedule. As the top half got completed by the end of the day, I’d feel that little list-hit of dopamine. More satisfaction would come when tomorrow’s items were ALL scratched off and became today’s.

My second style of list is a scrawl of half-expressed ideas onto the back of a mail envelope, program flyer, or receipt. These lists get folded and stuffed into my pockets or become bookmarks, only to be discovered later, partly deciphered partly forgotten.

Over the past few months I have not had the discipline of a tidy schedule. My flâneuse-style wandering has reflected in my list-making. I tried to make a type 1 list, but items didn’t easily sort when my “today” and “tomorrow” have been so fluid. Instead, the type 2 lists catch my daily thoughts before they dissolve, little messy scraps that reveal how I am figuring out what shape my life takes next.

A handwritten list on the back of a Saje sales receipt: CAAT, 4-piece snaps, unemployment (CHECK!), City of London, MOI.
List Type 2: A handwritten list on the back of a Saje sales receipt: CAAT, 4-piece snaps, unemployment (CHECK!), City of London, MOI. What does it all mean? I hardly know myself.

Adam Grant has a WorkLife episode on procrastination where he suggests writing a to don’t list to make visible what’s might be delaying one’s progress and help get yourself out of your own way. That’s not a bad idea, especially when big life transitions mean the work of processing hard feelings, managing stress, and trying to find small wins.

So I’m giving a type 3 list a try. Moving into my next life phase, which doesn’t yet have neat time-bound quadrants, I write neatly down the centre of the page:

  • Don’t be hard on yourself.
  • Don’t fail to appreciate what you have.
  • Don’t seek certainty at the expense of your joy.
  • Don’t not trust yourself. (Double negative, but you get it.)

This third type of list has turned out to be important, not because it tells me what I need to do but because it reminds me who I want to be.

ADHD · fitness · habits · self care

Adding a little woo to my fitness journaling

Hmm, if I were to pull a Tarot card before I started exercising would that mean I was doing a woo-kout?

Yes, I do find myself funny. Your mileage may vary.

As a writer, a storyteller, and someone who is intrigued by mysteries, magic, and ghost stories, I love Tarot cards, Oracle cards, story dice, and all of that kind of stuff.

Six rectangular tiles on a green cloth. Each tile has an image on it that will be used to interpret answers to a question.
A few tiles from a set of oracle tiles I created for myself out of wooden tiles, drawings, stickers, and collage items. Image description: six small rectangular tiles on a wrinkled green cloth. One tile has three candles and a striped background, one has a gold star against a background of black lines, one has a window or maybe a French door against a green background and there are flowers in a vase in front of the door/window, another has the word wonder cut from a magazine against a black background with gold polkadots, another shows a green puzzle piece against a background of gold and black alternating lines, and the final one shows a sticker of a snail moving up a green hill that I drew on the tile.

And I use those tools regularly for writing, storytelling, journaling, and reflecting.

I’m not particularly mystical about using them. I know that some people are very engaged with the rituals around Tarot but I generally think of myself as in conversation with my subconscious rather than with an unknown force. (The woo in my title is more about playing with perceptions than about my approach to engaging with these tools.*)

I like the way that Tarot or Oracle cards give me a container for examining my thoughts, feelings, and reactions to a situation.

And given the speed at which my ADHD brain seeks context, generates ideas, and weaves a web of connecting thoughts, it can be a relief to have a structure I can borrow to organize my thinking.

So, when I found myself planning to journal on the question, “What could make it easier for me to exercise?, it made sense for me to turn to my Tarot cards for some guidance.

 I drew the Three of Cups.

A tarot card for the three of cups
This particular three of cups card is from the Phantomwise Tarot by Erin Morgenstern and the images are related to her book The Night Circus. Image description: A tarot card is propped up between the keys of my black computer keyboard. The card depicts three feminine presenting figures in long dresses and black opera gloves lifting glasses high in the air towards each other in a ‘Cheers’ sort of gesture. The occurred itself is black, and all of the images are in black white and grey.

The interpretation of this card seems pretty straightforward (although there are ways to dive deeply into the meanings of any card, of course.)

This card is about friendship, joy, support, and connection and it resonated with me in terms of my exercise practice.

I know that all of those things can be helpful for any ongoing practice but I hadn’t really thought about whether I needed to include them in my fitness plans.

But ensuring that friendship, joy, support, and connection are part of the plan seems like a pretty good place to start making my exercise easier to do.

So I changed the nature of the questions I was asking myself.

Instead of just ‘What could make it easier to exercise?’ I asked myself:

How can I make the exercise process more fun?

How can I make exercise a more social activity?

What kind of support do I need to make it easier for me to exercise?

Now, I know that all of these questions have come up for me before.

They’ll probably come up again.

But since the initial question occurred to me now and those other questions arose as a result, they’re worth exploring.

I don’t think I would’ve thought along these lines without drawing that card.

I probably wouldn’t have considered whether I needed a social element or more moral support right now.

But since the themes of that card resonated with me, I’m going to explore how they might be helpful to me.

A different card may or may not have resonated but, at the very least, it would have guided me to different questions to consider.

And journalling without pulling a card would have probably been helpful but my thoughts may not have been focused and they likely have sent me off in a whole different direction.

So, just as I had hoped, pulling a Tarot card gave me a container for my thoughts, a way to direct my inquiries that felt purposeful.

And even if the card hadn’t resonated, I would have been able to journal about why that definitely wasn’t what I needed – a helpful piece of information in itself.

Anyway, I’ll let you know about any useful answers that arise from my journalling in response to these questions.

And now I have a few questions for you:

Do you ever use Tarot as a way to guide or contain your thinking on a given topic?

Have you ever found Tarot useful for your fitness practices?

Would you like me to pull a card to help guide your thinking about a fitness question?

If so, please let me know in the comments!

*If you have a more mystical or esoteric approach to using divination tools, please don’t think I am dismissing you here. I am aiming for a clear description of my approach not a dismissal of yours.

Book Reviews · fitness

Food, Feminism, and Fury

Someone, somewhere, recommended I read the book If You Can’t Take the Heat, by Geraldine DeRuiter. I put it on my TBR list and forgot about it until I was looking for something from the library and picked it up. I’m glad I did.

Geraldine DeRuiter (everywhereist.com) is known as a food writer, but this isn’t exactly a food book. It’s mostly a biography, but filled with both biting feminist commentary and hilarious turns of phrase. I don’t mark up books, or use bookmarks to remember particularly interesting bits in books I’m reading, but this one is full of sticky notes. Here are a few of my favourite lines:

  • From page 11 of the first chapter, entitled “the First Taste of Defiance”: I wouldn’t touch hot dogs, but consumed pig’s feet and boiled cow’s tongue with all the restraint of an underfed hyena, delighting in my cousins’ and brother’s horror. (This was when I knew I would love the book).
  • It’s a hard thing to learn: that we can ask things of other people, that we can order food how we want it. That our bodies deserve to be nourishing and loved and fed the way we want them to be.
  • On being trapped in the kitchen preparing Thanksgiving dinner with the other women of her family: Growing up, I had plenty of examples of men cooking…In my ruthless assessment, when someone could not cook, they’d failed at adulthood. But I found myself judging women slightly more harshly than I judged me when I discovered they were inept in the kitchen. I simply expected lore of them, at least culinarily, which was unfair to everyone…I’ve accepted the feminist notion that women can do everything, but the idea that we don’t have to do certain things is taking a bit longer to sink in.
  • On paying at restaurants: By not endeavouring to imagine that [women] might be the ones picking up the bill, the staff is not regarding them as legitimate patrons of the restaurant. They are there as accessories for the male guests. Given the transactional role that biting a woman dinner has historically carried in Western society, the entire situation becomes even more fraught.
  • On coping with anxiety by amassing food in case of disaster: My favourite part of any survival story is the acquisition of food and water…I love when the befriend a dog, which people in disaster stories almost always do, because it adds dimension to the story, but also because dogs are edible!
  • The contents of my pantry would not stop my father from getting cancer, would not prevent my mother from forgetting a portion the stove and burning down the house she had lived in for twenty-five years. I was ignoring the first precious word in the phrase “comfort food” – that in order to comfort, the grief and pain have already arrived. The casserole delivered in the wake of a tragedy does not reach back and undo the devastation. But…it reminds us, at a time when we so desperately need it, that we are loved.
  • According to the psychologist Sandra Thomas, a leading researcher in the field of gender and anger, anger is often perceived as a distinctly masculine trait….In that same vein, women are taught that anger is undermined, and to suppress, it, until one day we drop dead from a lifetime of biting our own tongues.
  • On body image: I had very distinct dietary goals. I wanted to outlive all of these assholes and be healthy enough to dance on their graves.

It’s not all snappy one-liners and fury. Her struggles as a child in a chaotic and sometimes abusive household, her complicated feelings about her mostly-absent father, the misogyny and hate she has faced for daring to have opinions in the public sphere are all laid bare. But she has great tenderness for her parents, her friends, and most of all, her husband.

I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked up this book. But I’m very glad I did.

My library copy of If you Can’t Take the Heat. It has a pink cover with a woman’s hand crushing a frosted pastry. A whole bunch of blue sticky notes are hanging out the side.