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Go Team 2026: How do you want to feel?

Hey Team!

One of the things I love about Yoga With Adriene is how often she returns to the idea of ‘Find What Feels Good’ when it comes to a yoga practice.*

I think it is a great guideline for many practices but particularly for movement practices because so many fitness instructors and influences are all about what looks good or about burning calories or about crushing one thing or another.

I feel decidedly meh about all of those things but I feel GREAT about leaning into ways to feel good about the practices I am bringing into my life.

And I am hoping that as you work towards expanding your life in whichever ways you choose, your feelings will be a key factor in your decision-making process.

It is worth figuring out how to make your practices feel good to you.

In fact, “How do I want to feel?” can be one of the most important starting points in any project** because it gives you some criteria for choosing activities, timelines, conspirators, and actions.

Once you know how you want to feel, you can identify what actions to take, how and when to take them, and who to take them with.

And considering how you want to feel gives you a bit of extra motivation, an extra sense of why you are choosing to do what you are doing.

When it comes to fitness and wellness, your feelings aren’t just about feeling good, bad, excited, or whatever, they can also get specific to the practices you are considering.

You can ask yourself “How do I want my legs to feel?” or “What does strong feel like?” or “How does ‘feeling energetic’ show up in my body?” And then you can decide how to work towards those feelings/how to track them/how to motivate yourself in the search for them.

And, of course, my ADHD brain won’t let me get away without considering this possible hitch:

Sometimes, the thing that will feel good in the long term doesn’t feel good now.

For example, the feeling of having strong abs will be great in many ways but doing plank right now may not feel good at all.

In fact, the effort required may feel downright discouraging.

And I am not going to suggest that you put a lot of energy into convincing yourself that something you don’t enjoy feels good (but if that works for you, have at it!)

Instead, I am going to suggest that you find something that feels good about it – maybe you can focus on how good it feels to check that exercise off of your list, or how good it feels to see the number on your timer creep up, or, even, how good it feels to stop!

And you might spend a bit of time digging deep into your imagination to generate a sense of how it will feel to have strong abs, the things that will be easier for you to do, the way your body will respond to future challenges as a result. Perhaps knowing you are giving a gift to your future self will help your sacrifice feel good in the moment.

I have a lot more to say this topic but I don’t have a lot of time to say today so I am going to pause the discussion here and get to the gold star portion of our post:

Here are your three small gold stars for your efforts today. You can award them to yourself for three separate things or you can pile them all in for one thing.

I know you are working on things, whether you are at the thinking stage, the planning stage or the action stage.

And I know your capacity will vary from day to day.

Please celebrate whatever the you of today is able to do, no matter how small, because your effort counts and your work matters.

Be kind to yourself out there!

Go Team Us!

A drawing of three small gold stars
A drawing of three small gold stars hanging from strings at the top of the notebook. In the bottom right corner and the top left corner there are a series of curved black lines that alternate between being filled with a gold stripe and featuring a line of black dots. The background of the whole image features a bunch of small black dots.

*In fact, Find What Feels Good is the name of her app.

**In many other contexts – relationships, presentations, web design, displays, “How do I want them to feel?” can also be an important question but it is less relevant for your fitness and wellness, of course!

advice · Happy New Year! · new year's resolutions · Sat with Nat

Nat’s fitness secrets to success in 2026

A new year often brings a sense of renewal. I’m not one to make resolutions in January. It is a good time to check in on goals and make adjustments. Steady as she goes!

I’m stacking the deck in my favour for a good 2026 by ensuring each day has movement in it. Daily dog walks, cycling commutes, strength and flexibility. I’m set up for success and have fully ditched “all or nothing” thinking.

Resilience

I’m bracing for bad stuff too. Experience has taught me along with all the great things comes a healthy dose of hard stuff, horrors even.

It’s the complicated gift of middle age, being pulled in many directions without falling apart.

Going through tough stuff has taught me I’m a good hugger. Olympic level hug giver right here. Happy to demonstrate at any moment.

I hold hands at hospital bedsides very well. I stay careful and kind now, even when I’m really upset.

I’m more resilient thanks to my fitness adventures.

So my wisdom to share on this year’s fitness goals is here for you if you need it.

It all counts

Watch didn’t record? Garmin dump your ride? It’s ok if it didn’t end up on Strava. Your body knows you did it. Data is only one measure. You were there. You did it. Go you!

Say it again, it all counts

Barely got to the workout? Had to wrap up early? Needed to lighten the resistance? Take a lighter weight?

AMAZING! You showed up for yourself and invested in your wellbeing. Well done!

You don’t have to like it

There will be days it sucks and you don’t enjoy the workout. You will always feel a sense of accomplishment regardless of how it went.

If a given activity is really chapping your ass switch it up. Ditch the weights and do a cardio dance class. Yoga pissing you off? Take up a martial art. You don’t always have to like it. Way to go!

Confidence comes from trusting yourself

You know when you are sick and need to rest.

You know when you need down time.

You know when you need help staying motivated.

You know who to go to for help.

You know a lot!

Trust yourself!

Plans rarely survive encounters with reality

The beautiful plan will fall apart. That’s ok because you knew it would happen and made flexibility part of the plan. Please, please, please break up with perfection.

My MVP (minimum viable plan) is 60 minutes of movement. Walking, cycling, stretching, dancing in my underwear. It’s adaptable.

Weather is sweet? I’m on my bike.

Back getting tight? Add another walk and do some yoga.

Bike out of commission? Grab some dumbbells.

You get the idea.

Messy is good

Challenge yourself to be a bit of a wreck. Not all moments are instagram moments.

Exploring the edges of your capacity is exciting and helps you grow. It’s not necessary every day but totally required to keep monotony at bay.

Team up to survive

It’s a fitness wasteland out here. Team up in person or virtually with workout partners. You will get more workouts in more often. Harness the power of positive peer pressure.

HAVE FUN

I’m serious. Play disc golf, beach volleyball, snorkel with manatees, whatever makes this year different than last year. Be silly and do stuff. That’s part of fitness too.

That’s it

Thank you for reading this far. I hope you gleaned some gems that you can keep for 2026.

Spoiler, this is the advice I need so I wrote it down. Hopefully I don’t forget!

LETS GO 2026!

Nat is cozy in winter clothes. Michel, forever photographed just behind her and off to the side is looking lovely. They are in front of a brick house with lots of snow on the ground.
fitness · habits · new year's resolutions

Checking in on my 25 midway through 2025

I have done this challenge for couple of years now. You can read my full plan for 2025 here.

Camp more at the cottage property. Hasn’t happened yet, but it’s still early in the season. I have made some modest progress on getting the cottage finished, including water and electricity. The canoe hasn’t gone into the lake yet, and I haven’t gone hiking; both may need to wait for my friend Mel’s annual visit.

Bike at least 2,000 km? Hahaha no! But I am doing lots of physio so my knees don’t hurt as much when I do bike. I’m trying to make it a regular practice, but I’m still struggling to set time aside to stretch and work on mobility.

Reading one book a month is going well. The only challenge is that I renewed my library card so I am reading books I don’t own, instead of reading books on my shelves so I can pass them along. I am a bit behind on reading magazines, but I think I can complete this challenge.

My longstanding challenge of cooking at least one new recipe a week is more-or less on track. My focus has shifted from cooking for Dad to cooking more vegan and vegetarian meals for myself. I have been far too busy to work on redacting medieval recipes. I’ll need to get back into the habit of doing that. I have been pretty good at shopping from my pantry.

The gardens are a bit of a disaster this year, and I totally forgot I wanted to push my boundaries on different veggies and only planted a few. However, I did successfully propagate new grape vines and overwinter pawpaws.

I have no idea how I’m doing on the goal of swimming 200 km a year. Probably not very well, as I missed quite a few practices this spring. My little crew of open water swimmers has fallen apart and I’m not sure how brave I am while I wait for next steps on treating the heart murmur.

I am doing some crafting but nothing too exciting. My textiles conference with four days of classes is next week, so hopefully that will spark some new ideas.

I am so far behind on sewing five new outfits I don’t even want to think about it! My machine is currently trapped behind kitchen cupboards that need to go to the cottage as soon as the walls are ready. I have acquired more fabric thanks to helping Mom declutter, but I have ideas for most of it (more Beach pyjamas!). Sadly, my art supplies are also trapped, so I have not been doing anything artistic either.

I have managed some visits with my son and grandson, but failed miserably at meeting up with friends for social time, or just relaxing, or even doing much volunteering. Elder care will continue to be a major theme for the rest of the year, which means I am cutting back on volunteer activities and probably not going to make that couch-surfing vacation.

Reviewing all of this reminds me that there are things I want to do and things I need to let go of. I am pushing myself too hard to achieve goals, rather than learning to relax and enjoy some of the freedom that should come with retirement.

A lot of things conspired in the first half of the year that made it very challenging to stick to fitness routines (or even house cleaning routines, to be honest). I think my goal for the second half of 2025 is to do as much of the 25 as I can manage without stressing myself, with a particular focus on those that are about relaxing and being with family and friends.

Photo from a long-ago visit to Senegal, where I managed a couple of days relaxing at the beach.
Fear · mindfulness · new year's resolutions · WOTY

Stop Resisting Ease: My 2025 Challenge

Every year I choose a WOTY, as many of you do, no doubt, and many of us here at Fit Is a Feminist Issue. I was having so much trouble choosing my word for this year, that I couldn’t even contribute to our group post. I kept saying to people, I want a word like ease. Something that captures the lightness and flow of ease. The way we can be more present when we are at ease. And I kept not wanting to choose the actual word. Ease. One friend sent me this fabulous Japanese expression, ichi-go ichi-e, which basically means for this time only or cherish this moment. It’s a version of Marcel Proust’s madeleine or the Heraclitus’ line about never stepping into the same river twice, with a dash of gratitude added, for the beauty of the river we are stepping into or the deliciousness of the madeleine we are eating. As beautiful as all these ideas are, ichi-go ichi-e felt heavier than what I was looking for. I try to make a practice of being grateful for as much as possible in my life. And that gratitude does not necessarily bring me ease. Gratitude demands attention and intention, especially in hard times. I was looking for a word that captured a feeling of less effort, if not full-on effortlessness (if that’s not a contradiction).

As I was effortfully trying to write this, pushing words and ideas around on the page, as if they were one of those sleds people push in CrossFit, I came across this quote from Norman Fischer, a Zen priest, poet and teacher: In the full intensity of the present moment there is never anything to fear—there is only something to deal with. It is a subtle point, but it is absolutely true: the fear I experience now is not really present moment based: I am afraid of what is going to happen. So, maybe ease is less about gratitude and maybe more about finding a way through fear. Not that that is simpler. Yet softening around all my myriad fears feels like it just might be a route to ease.  A few days later, while writing something else, I came up with this formula:

What I was wrestling with was the idea that if I can move into the future with trust and find the grace to dance with what the universe delivers, then I will be able to move through my boat load of fears. And there, on the other side of fear, is where I will find ease.  

As I headed out to meet a friend for a run on January 1st, in a cold winter rain, which turned to snow just in time for our run and then switched back to rain as we took our last steps (thank you, universe, for that opening gift of 2025—an easy gratitude!), I realized that I was resisting the word ease, because it felt so impossible, or like I don’t deserve it. Here’s a sampler from that voice in my head: It’s coming up on 3 years since your marriage started falling apart and you still can’t find ease? What’s wrong with you? Why are you not over it already? If you can’t find ease by now, you never will. Also, that’s your fault. The inside of my head is not always the most cheerful place to be.

When I realized that my dis-ease with the word ease was about resistance (my fear!), and not my usual, there’s-a-more-perfect-word-to-describe-what-I-mean, I knew what my word of the year had to be. EASE. Sometimes my word is aspirational and other years it is a beacon. This year it is the former—an aspiration, which I will try to hold lightly, mindful of the paradox that if I aspire too hard, then I will surely not find ease. What will ease look like? Less time in my head, worrying about the future. More time just being (trust!). Making choices rooted more in pleasure and less in financial fear (grace!). Less fighting against what is, like taking my medication (grace!). More noticing the gifts on offer, like how well my medication works (trust!).

This year I will trust and dance with grace. Aspiring. Letting go. Moving through fears. That’s where I’ll find ease. If I do. Not that I’m attached to the outcome. Okay, maybe a little bit. Here goes.

goals · habits · Happy New Year! · holidays · new year's resolutions

Sam declares that January 6th is the real new year’s day

I know some people start them earlier,  like December, or even October. I don’t think we’ve ever suggested November.  November is the worst month of the year,  in my books.  It doesn’t need any additional pressure.

And then there’s the very late start crowd who declare January to be a free trial month and skip straight to February 1.

I’ve also been enjoying and admiring Christine’s rebranding of January as Planuary, the month where you do all the work to set yourself up for success in the year ahead.

Of course any day of the year can work.  Just ask Catherine!

But still,  it’s true for most of us that the start of the new year looms large as the fresh page and a new beginning.  Yet there are also parties on January 1 and some of us haven’t returned to work yet. Betwixtmas lingers.

I think,  for me and let me recommend to you,  the new year actually begins the first Monday in January.

Why?

Monday is, in my books,  the best day of the week,  full of energy and possibility. The first Monday in January has all sorts of extra Monday energy.

Compare that to starting anew on Wednesday, when January 1 actually fell this year.  Wednesday? That blurry middle of the week humpday isn’t meant for fresh starts.

Also,  there are lots of parties on new year’s day.  The gym is open only for restricted hours and my gym had limited group fitness classes,  which were all full.

So for me and my resolutions which are really just a re-upping of my commitment to mostly ongoing goals and habits,  it’s January 6th when stuff gets real. Join me!

Or not.  You do you.  Whatever works. Use a tool if it’s handy.  If not put it back in the box.  That’s the spirit around here.

But for me, for a few years now it seems,  the first Monday after January 1, is the start of the new year.

The new year starts Monday. Resolution makers, you’ve got until tomorrow, Sam declares

January in Scrabble tiles
advice · fitness · goals · habits · new year's resolutions

Go Team 2025: So Far, So Good

Hey Team,

Yeah, I know that’s an odd way to start the first post of a series on the first day of a new year when everyone is just wrapping their minds around things.

BUT!

It’s also completely true.

You are already good so at any point in this year it will be ‘so far, so good.’

This isn’t toxic positivity, it’s a fact.

Maybe you have figured out a few things you want to get done this year. Maybe you have decided to try something new. Maybe you think goals and resolutions are a waste of time. Maybe (like me!) you aren’t quite sure what you want to do yet so you are calling this month Planuary and making your figuring-it-out process all part of the plan.

No matter which of those things applies to you right now, you are indeed already good.

You may be trying to expand or enhance your life in some way but that’s about a good person making their life better.

It’s not about someone trying to earn goodness through new habits and behaviours.

You don’t have anything to prove.

You don’t have to be a superhero.

You don’t have to make drastic changes.

You definitely don’t need to (to borrow the title of far too many posts I have seen recently) ‘Become Unrecognizable.’

I want to recognize your lovely self AND I want you to feel good about your days, about your fitness level, about your approach to things.

Since we are all on the same Team here, I am inviting you to be kind to yourself as you figure out how to enhance or expand your life in the ways that serve you best.

As is our tradition here at Fit is a Feminist Issue, I am going to be posting every day in January with a reminder of how to make things a little easier on yourself as move towards the things you want in your life.

And, as always I will be drawing you a gold star for your daily efforts.

By the way, if you’re new here, I give out gold stars for effort instead of for results because we can’t control our results but our efforts matter and I want to celebrate our hard work.

a small drawing of a gold star
image description: a small drawing of a gold star that is trimmed in light blue and has light blue dots in the background. The drawing is framed in black with a light blue edge on the inside.

ADHD · advice · goals · new year's resolutions · planning

Goals, Contradictions, & Planuary

This time of year is so full of contradictions.

January 1 is an actual new calendar year BUT it is also an arbitrary date for starting something new. It simultaneously has a lot of meaning AND no meaning at all, goalwise at least.

I love the idea and the feeling of a ‘fresh start’ on January 1 but I resent the pressure and the implication that I need to become a ‘new me.’ (I happen to like current me and I would like to add more good things to her life.)

I am drawn to creating plans, goals, and systems but I feel overwhelmed by the idea that they all need to start on January 1 (an idea that I reject but it still haunts me.)

I love the idea of big challenges (they help me focus) but I need small, recurring tasks if I want to keep working away at my plans (even though my brain argues with me that the tasks aren’t adding up to anything.)

I want to make a long-term plan so I have everything in place right at the beginning but I know that making a detailed plan means that my brain will overlap the plan with the tasks and file the project away as already complete.

I like having something to work towards but I know that focusing on the process rather than the result is the only way to actually add good things to my life.

For all of these reasons (and because I have zero capacity for planning in December), I usually refer to January as Planuary and use this month to figure out how I want to proceed throughout the year – with fitness, with work, and with everything else.

To prepare for Planuary, I’ve been reading and watching a lot of interesting advice about resolutions, goals, and the like.

And since you might also be in the space of contradictions and Planuary and figuring things out, I thought I would share some of the stuff I have found:

Here’s Jessica McCabe from How to ADHD with some advice about accountability. She’s mostly talking to people with ADHD but I’m sure there’s useful stuff for everyone in here:

Karin Nordin. Ph.D., from Body Brain Alliance has some interesting suggestions in this video about how to experiment with your goals before deciding whether to take them on. She suggests this approach as a December experiment but it could work as a Planuary experiment, too.

I really enjoyed this reflection from Kate C. Bowler on Instagram about how we can proceed imperfectly.

And this Instagram post from Kaitlin Curtice is ALL about the contradictions of this time of year.

And I like how this post from Dr. Kristin Neff brings self-compassion and values into the conversation about our plans for the year ahead.

So, with all of this information (and more!) at hand, I am ambling into January/Planuary with the idea of taking things day by day while I figure out the big and small pictures of how I want to expand and enhance (and simplify and streamline) my life in 2025.

AND, as I have been doing for the past few years, I will be writing a daily Go Team post to encourage you (and me!) to be kind to ourselves as we figure things out.

Whether you have your plans in place or whether you are ambling along with me, I hope you’ll keep me company along the way.

This isn’t exactly a Go Team post but it also kind of is, so here is our gold star for our efforts – our efforts to figure things out, our efforts to be at ease with what we haven’t figured out, and our efforts to be kind to ourselves either way.

a photo of a sparkler that has been lit and is giving off sparks and sparkles
I know, I usually use a drawing for our gold stars but this photo of a sparkler always makes me happy and it feels celebratory AND it has lots of star shapes in it so we’re calling it a gold star. Image description: a photo of one of those metal sparklers with flammable, spark-creating material on one end that people use to celebrate special occasions. This one has been lit outside and is giving off all kinds of sparks and sparkles that look like a cluster of gold stars. The background is dark and the metal stick at the bottom of the sparkler is slightly visible at the bottom.

challenge · fitness · Happy New Year! · new year's resolutions

Catherine’s decluttering plans for 2025

My dear readers,

Remember when Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, came out?

Studious alligator doesn’t know.

Neither did I. Google does– it was 2011, and was released in the US in 2014. But it wasn’t until the January 2019 Netflix series that full-on Kondo-ing fever hit. All of a sudden, thrift shops and donation bins everywhere were overflowing with good stuff. We all wanted to get rid of whatever no longer brought us joy. And yes, I joined the throw-out brigade.

But that was six years ago. In the meantime, stuff has built back up. And not just stuff: the grime and residue and smudginess of habits and ruts and plans (even new pandemic-provoked ones) created too much complexity, too much mess. Some of us (by us I mean me) thought that by tweaking or shifting around or reconfiguring, we (I) could juggle all the things (physical and mental) to function efficiently and happily.

Yeah, no.

It’s now five years later, and I’m in need of a full Marie Kondo treatment– not just of my stuff, but of my life habits. Back in 2016, I wrote about Marie Kondo here, concluding that, for my workouts, more was still more. And during the pandemic, Sam was on Team More, doing more and more varied workouts. I was on Team Less can be More. Fast forward to now, I’m joining Team Less Life Clutter. How to do that? Here are some ideas I came up with:

 Fewer streaming services– I mean, how many spy suspense series and cooking shows can I actually watch while I have a job? I’m dropping Apple+ and Hulu. Keeping Netflix, Amazon Prime, and PBS (public tv app, which is awesome). We’ll see how long Amazon Prime stays around…

Fewer clothes– I’m going on a serious buy nothing* plan starting this January (*except basics that urgently need replacing and stuff from my favorite consignment shop, provided I bring things to consign, too).

Fewer books—ACK! *breathing* I have way too much books that I’ve already read or won’t read or don’t need. Plus, I have many books that I WANT to read, but they’re not organized or easily accessible. Imma organize them so I can see the vast selection I own, and put the brakes on buying for a while* (*except for book club books I can’t get from the library or something urgently needed for research).

Fewer and simpler physical activity plans—for the next two months, I’m cutting back my list of exercise activities to three: 1) one yoga class per week; 2) one trip to the gym per week; 3) ride my bike trainer once per week. Let’s see how that goes. If two weeks goes by and I don’t do all three, I’ll cut back to two, and so on until I do at least one of these every week for 4 weeks. Then I can build back up. I got so caught up in work and family stuff and social stuff that I lost consistent regular workouts. I want them back.

Less variety in my meditation– I’ve used the Happiness app (formerly Ten Percent Happiness) since 2020, and I’ve noticed that I gravitate towards the same 15–20 guided meditations and 5–6 teachers. I’m also doing more unguided meditation.

I used to think I should switch it up more and get exposed to more meditation teachers, more approaches, more variations on practice. But I’m really happy with the meditation practice I’ve embedded in my life. I do 10–20 minutes first thing in the morning, every morning. I *might* do another session in the afternoon if I’m feeling extra leisurely and contemplative. But honestly, the morning sesh fixes me up for the day.

Fewer classes to teach—I teach a four-course/semester load at my university (which is a LOT), and in addition, have been teaching at least one overload course per semester for extra money. This year, I’m getting rid of the extra course as soon as possible (maybe this spring, but definitely in the fall, and no summer school teaching!) I really enjoy teaching, but have noticed that I can’t really maintain the quality of focus I want and need when I teach so many courses. Luckily I have a little wiggle room to cut back.

Less gear: I’m selling my ultra-light speedy kayak that I bought myself as a 60th birthday gift. Here we are back in 2022.

Don’t we look happy together? Nothing bad happened, but the thrill is gone…

I was very excited to get my own boat, and loved how light it was (27 lbs/13kg). However, it just didn’t suit me in the end. So I’m letting it go. I may buy a used tandem recreational kayak if I can find a good deal. We shall see. I already have all the gear I need for it (except for one more paddle and PFD/life jacket). I’m also letting go of my old squash racket and tennis racket. I haven’t used them in a while, and they deserve good homes.

Looking at my decluttering list, I didn’t mention lots of things I really love– swimming, kayaking (in other boats), walking in nature, travel to nature places, fun outdoorsy adventures, possible new activities (full disclosure: I’m planning a bungie fitness class with my friend Martin sometime this winter, and want to take some parkour fitness again, too). BUT: I really need some decluttering before take on anything new. So, it’s time to let go. Less is less, but it’s not nothing!

Dear readers, do you have plans for decluttering any parts of your activity life this coming year? Are you adding to your schedule? Happy as you are? I’d love to hear from you.

fitness · habits · new year's resolutions

Gradual Changes: Resolutions Made Easy in December

I like the idea of phasing in your resolutions during December.

As you might know, I’m not a fan of making October the new January, or #OctoberTheory.

But I recently read about the idea of ramping up to the new year by gradually introducing changes in December and that made sense to me.

I confess that I also like the sleep example and the daily cut-offs for caffeine, food, and screens. The times even sound right to me.

For 2025, I am going to try phasing in resolutions early, one week of December at a time. Week 1: Improve sleep. Starts Monday!No caffine: 2pm. No alcohol: 6pm. No chow: 8pm. In bed with no screens: 10pm. Socializing can occasionally take precedent. Out of bed: 7am.

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Netflix. Photo by John-Mark Smith on Pexels.com

Do you have a resolution you’d like to phase in this way?

fitness · new year's resolutions · rest

Rest

Back when I was in sixth grade, I had a babysitting job one weekend but started to feel sick so I called my mom. She took over from me while I went home and slept – for over 24 hours. Turns out I wasn’t sick at all, just exhausted. It happened every few years after that for my entire adult life. Did I learn from this? No, I did not.

But maybe I’m finally starting to absorb the lessons.

Last weekend I went camping with friends and barely left our little area. I washed lots of dishes and helped with meals, but mostly I sat around the fire and puttered while talking to people I love spending time with. I came home feeling mentally refreshed and not too physically tired.

This week, I’m ordering a “cottage”, more of a pre-fab shed for my lakeside property. I have owned the land for many years but didn’t go there at all for the first 15 because it was too much effort. More recently, I got myself set up so most of my camping gear stays there and I have a tent already up.

There’s still a fair bit of work involved in final set-up and take-down each visit, plus the worry about who will care for my cats while I’m away. Hence the cottage, where I can unlock the door and have a bed ready to go, and the cats can come with me.

In between those two events, I spent a weekend reading books and magazines, skipping a swim, not riding my bike, and reaching a level of rest that I actually felt the desire to do some house cleaning, a job I loathe (but I do it, to be clear).

Why don’t I do this more often? I have no idea. Work has been a giant constraint, especially as I pushed myself to be a physically active role model for my two kids. Plus I needed the intellectual stimulation of my hobbies.

I suspect I fell into the whole supermom fallacy, wanting to believe that I could have a fulfilling career, raise perfect kids, have a beautiful home, and look fabulous while doing it all. That belief started back in elementary school, when I was anxious to make friends and excel at all the things, while changing schools every couple of years.

Even in retirement, it’s hard to let go of all the activities. I track everything: workouts, chores, craft and research projects, blog posts written, recipes tried.

I have a goal of reading 52 magazines and 12 books this year. I’m well behind schedule, but my pile of back issues is starting to look a little more manageable after last weekend.

But genuinely taking a day off to do nothing in particular, and not worrying about whether I’m ticking off some box on a mental checklist? That is going to take a little more effort. Or less effort? I’m not sure how to describe working at doing nothing. All I know is that I need to work on building rest into my routine

I am amused by this image promoting rest and relaxation, from the Asian American Organizing Project. They sound as conflicted as me about how to rest.