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What to do if your mostly-benign cult-adjacent sport sides with the bigots? (Guest post)

by Alexis Shotwell

CrossFit has reversed its trans-inclusive competition policy; what should those of us who care about the sport do?

So look, I’ve been in a number of close-knit groups with very specific ritual practices, languages, ways of making sense of life, and modes of building a sense of self: Buddhist meditation communities, academia, CrossFit. I’ve known from the beginning that CrossFit might be my most problematic fave. But it’s also been so wonderful for me – a site of social connection with people who have become real friends, of physical joy, and of building capacities to do things with my body that I would never have predicted. If you know anyone who does CrossFit you’ve probably heard about how great it is from them, because of the contract everyone who does CrossFit signs to talk about it at least three times per day. (Kidding! Kind of. As the other joke that applies to me goes, “What does a vegan who does CrossFit tell you about first?” “Fermentation.”) But it has a kind of macho reputation, an orientation towards the belief that everyone would be better off if they too did high intensity work with weights, and, yes, a bit of cult-adjacentness in its use of in-group language, fervent devotion, and shared rituals.

In many ways as a sport, however accidentally, it also has liberatory potential. There are no mirrors in CrossFit gyms, which really changes the vibe from a place where people are constantly watching themselves and each other. The focus is explicitly on functional movement, which has an outcome of also focusing on adapting movements to people’s bodily needs, scaling workouts to capacity, and all genders doing the same movements in shared spaces.

Some of the shared rituals of CrossFit are daily: Gathering at a fixed time around a board with the day’s workout, warming up together, doing movements together. But annual rituals are equally important. CrossFit’s include a yearly sequence of competitions. Everyone who does CrossFit, from the newest to the most elite athletes, can participate in this sequence. It starts with the Open, a series of three weekly workouts that are performed in local gyms or homes, recorded and scored. Last year, more than 344,000 people registered for this worldwide.

Then there’s a series of more elite competitions, culminating in the annual CrossFit Games. All of these are governed by the same rulebook. The fact that I, a middle-aged white lady, can do the same workouts as hundreds of thousands of other people around the world (though much, much slower than many), including someone who’s been declared “fittest in the world,” alongside the people who come to my local gym, is weird and neat. It’s part of the binding factor that builds the culture of CrossFit.

So when in 2018 they updated the rulebook to explicitly welcome trans athletes at all levels of competition, there was widespread rejoicing. The regulations were actually still fairly restrictive (like many sport regulations of trans people), especially if athletes did well enough in the Open to go on to more competitive levels. They specifically governed what serum testosterone levels were allowed for trans women, though it didn’t specify estrogen levels. But since the Game has a “drug-free” policy, trans men would have not been able to be on hormones for the previous year. And, of course, the regulations maintained a gender binary system (there is a much longer and very interesting conversation yet to be had in CrossFit about having nonbinary competition categories, which exist in other sports).

But in practice, after much advocacy and struggle by trans athletes and their allies, many trans athletes found the more expansive regulations an improvement. The CrossFit Games are one of the significant rituals that build community membership; excluding people from those rituals excludes them from community.

In January 2025, when the Games rulebook came out, the sections affirming trans participation had been quietly reversed: People are now required to compete under their “gender assigned at birth.” While there has been no official explanation of this change, and none of the big CrossFit fan websites are explicitly covering it, it’s hard not to think that this is a craven, pre-emptive capitulation with the Trump administration’s war on trans people.

So far, those attacks include executive orders about: gender being binary, trans women in sports, restricting youth health care, restricting passport notations to “M” and “F,” kicking trans people out of the military, as well as, by extension, the anti-DEI orders. But of course also the attacks on immigration, environment, and more also affect trans people.

The far Right is attacking everywhere all at once, and it can feel overwhelming to know what to do. This move by CrossFit is part of a broader tendency in which people and corporations comply with evil before being forced to. This is called “anticipatory obedience” and fascist governments rely on it.

But everywhere they attack, we can resist. It matters to fight back wherever we are connected to a site of attack. It matters to do this even if, especially if, we are not directly targeted. It matters to resist even in our frivolous and slightly ridiculous leisure pursuits, like trying to swing kettlebells slightly faster today than we could this time last year.

We could think about building the muscle to fight back just the way we think about building any skill at the gym: We assess our capacities, figure out in consultation with others what version of a lift we can do, pick an appropriate weight. Then we work with good form, progressively loading, getting stronger while avoiding injuring ourselves.

On a personal level, building the muscle of saying no, even when or because we’re not targeted, works like this. Just like we’re not going to be able to do a muscle-up without practicing pull-ups, we’re not going to be able to shelter someone targeted for unjust deportation without practicing intervening when people say racist things at work.

So here’s what you start with to build your anti-authoritarian, functional fitness, starting with some scaled versions, from easiest to Rx+.

·       Don’t pay Crossfit that $20 to compete in the Open this year.

·       Email them to tell them why, especially if you’re someone who has registered for the open in years past. Your email can be as simple as saying “Dear CrossFit, I want you to know that even though in 2022 I was 94,242th in the world and in 2023 moved up to 77,840th, and just this past year I finally got my first pull-up and I was so excited, I’m not competing this year because of your decision to not allow trans athletes to compete in the division that accords with their lived gender.”

·       Tell your friends at the gym that you’re not registering for the Open, and why. Some of your cis friends might never have thought about this as an issue, so you can be ready to help them understand what’s at stake and why it matters.

·       Connect with and support trans CrossFit athletes, boxes, and organizations that are speaking out about this.

·       Set up an alternative Open in your gym, or in your city – not paying money to CrossFit central doesn’t mean that you can’t do fun hard things together. If you set this up as a registration-based program, decide where to send the money to – maybe someplace doing cool things to support trans people in your town accessing sport?

·       See if your gym is open to conveying to CrossFit HQ how unhappy its members are; help them explore what would be involved in disaffiliating if they continue to promote bigoted, unscientific, anti-trans policies. Remind your head coaches that gyms that have openly queer and trans-supportive practices also have a leg up in attracting awesome, positive, and sexy members.

·       Rx+: be part of a groundswell of resistance that everyone will be super surprised started with people who were mostly just trying to get a better Fran time and then turned out to be extremely effective at fighting the seeping tide of grim fascism. They thought we only cared about protein and gainz! But no!

There is precedent for ordinary people who care about this sport changing its policies and practices. When former CrossFit CEO Greg Glassman unfurled his racism back in 2020, there was widespread response, including a number of gyms disaffiliating. HQ pivoted, and he left the company.

Whoever made this decision about falling into lockstep with the Trump administration is betting that there won’t be outrage about it, that people will think gender stuff has nothing to do with them. They think that because this is a business, it’s not also a community – but the thing is, the thing that makes people love CrossFit is its infinite variation. Resisting anticipatory obedience makes you a better person and athlete. I guarantee you that there are trans people at your gym and that they make it a better place to be. Defend them, build the muscle of your own integrity, and keep training to be more equipped for the work to come.

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Bio: Teacher, writer, SF nerd, functional potter, queer, currently obsessed with doing handstands in middle age. Author of Against Purity: Living Ethically in Compromised Times and currently writing about Ursula K Le Guin’s anarchism.

ADHD · fitness · goals · habits · motivation · self care

Go Team 2025: Imagine Some Magic

Hey Team!

This is the last of the daily Go Team 2025 posts* and I wanted to write something meaningful and profound and so very, very, very helpful.

And you know what happens when you start with those kind of intentions, when you try to do something perfectly?

Yep, you’re right. It was EXTREMELY hard to start writing.

So…

I ditched the plan to be meaningful and profound and super helpful and I am wishing you magic instead.

I mean, I wish I *could* actually work some magic, make this all very easy for you, and then wave a wand that made self-kindness the default.

But, alas, I am an ordinary person with ordinary powers so I’m going to ask you to use your imagination to work some magic instead.

As I have mentioned before, I try to be realistically optimistic when I write these posts. Sometimes things will be easy, sometimes they will be tricky, and sometimes they will seem impossible and I aim to reflect all of that over the course of these daily posts.

We know that pretending change is easy doesn’t serve anyone well and pretending that it is a never-ending slog can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, it’s much better to address the changing nature of the process of change. There will be good parts and hard parts, you will need to make adjustments as you go, and that variability isn’t a flaw in your approach, it’s just how change works.

So, with all of that said, let’s get back to the magic and the imagination.

Let’s step away from reality and the variable nature of change and let ourselves imagine that it is easy to add new habits and to expand our lives.

Imagine that we can wave that wand and put ourselves into the middle of a system that is already working well and supporting our plans.

What could it look like if things were easy?

How would it feel?

What kinds of things would we have in place?

What would our systems be like?

What would they include?

Try to imagine as many details as you can for this magically perfect situation.

Ok, now, I’d like you to consider if you have any of those elements available to you at the moment or if you could arrange for them to be available to you.

Are there things you can tweak or change or just start doing that could bring you closer to your imagined situation?

It might be something small and symbolic like closing a door or using a particular pen or it might be something larger like ‘in my magically perfect situation, someone is taking care of my kids while I journal.’

The small symbolic things could be dealt with quickly, the larger things will likely take some extra work but it definitely is worth considering how they might be able to happen.

See, for me, the appeal of this imagined magical perfection is that it can lead me to realize some specific things that could support me as I move in the direction I want to go.

I know that, thanks in part to my ADHD, I sometimes don’t realize what kind of obstacles and annoyances are in my way in a given situation. My brain will just toss up a big subconscious wall of NO! when it comes to certain things and unless consciously choose to pick that wall apart, I won’t actually know what the problem is.

Choosing to imagine a perfect situation can highlight the things I may be able to adjust in my actual life.

And the same can be true for you.

Imagining magical perfection could be a way for you to see things you hadn’t noticed, to realize things you want to adjust, or to recognize an obstacle you hadn’t previously identified.

For example, in the situation I mentioned above, it may not have occurred to you to have someone watch your kids while you journal.

I’m not suggesting kids are automatically an obstacle to journaling but perhaps you are only just realizing that you find it difficult to get into the right headspace while listening to your kids in the other room.

Now that you have identified that challenge, you can seek times and ways to journal when your attention is less divided. That may mean getting child care, journaling in the car when waiting to pick them up, journaling when they are asleep, or changing the type of journaling you do so your divided attention is less of an obstacle.

So, Team, on this last day of January,

And here is your gold star for today’s efforts.

It’s not perfect and it doesn’t have to be – it’s doing grand, just as it is.

And the same goes for you.

No matter how much or how little progress you have made this month, no matter how many plans you have made or not made yet, no matter how you have approached this whole project of creating the life you want, you are doing just grand.

You are doing the best you can with the resources you have and I hope you are being kind to yourself throughout the whole thing.

I wish you ease. 💚

Go Team Us!

A photo of a painting of a gold star on a black background that is covered in gold dots.
A photo of a small painting of a large gold star against a black background with faint gold dots. The painting is in a coil notebook and is propped against a dark green surface on a white desk.

PS – I have recently read a bit about Best Case Scenario Journaling and watched a video from Body Brain Alliance called A New Way to Make Visions Boards That Changes Everything. I’m sure that I churned some of the concepts from both into my thinking process for this post (and probably some others) and combined them with stuff I already knew and other things I have heard about. I’m definitely not pretending to have invented everything I talk about, I’m just writing out my thoughts on them. Also, please be aware that discussions of Best Case Scenario Journaling can have a big ‘manifesting’ vibe to them which I am wary about so proceed with caution.

*Yes, I will be doing Go Team 2025 posts throughout the year, just not on any particular schedule and definitely not daily!

fitness · fun · mobility · self care

Wiggling

Most online dictionaries describe wiggling as something like “movement from side to side or up and down in short, quick movements.”

My wiggling

I wiggle for reasons ranging from self-care to pain management to fun. I wiggle while in bed after I wake up, to wake up my muscles. Sometimes I like to wiggle right after a shower, waterdrops flying. I have some L4, L5 issues in my back, so I will wiggle to relieve tension and pain, especially after sitting. And of course, I definitely wiggle when I dance.

I’m trying to identify when I wiggle, it led me to think about my body movements that would not be considered wiggling, such as jiggling:

The difference between ‘wiggle’ and ‘jiggle’ is the control had in the movement. If something jiggles it is uncontrolled… how far it moves, which direction etc etc may be constrained, but are essentially random. If something wiggles then the movement is controlled.” (English Language Learners)

While I am fairly sure my wiggling is controlled and therefore not jiggling, I also cannot easily sit still (as my partner often reminds me). My body seems to need to be busy. So, I present many wiggle-adjacent behaviours as well.

Synonyms for WIGGLE: fidget, twitch, squirm, toss, jerk, twist, fiddle, wriggle (Merriam Webster Dictionary).

My mind is as wiggly as my body. I enjoy wiggling around in topics that pique my curiosity. I pride myself on being able to wiggle out of problems I get myself into. I seem to thrive—physically and mentally—when there is plenty of wiggle room:

Wiggle Room: the freedom or opportunity to do something or to change your mind and do something differently if that is what is needed (Cambridge Dictionary).

Wiggling through this post

When I was first conceiving this post, but my negative inner voice dismissed the idea (too silly, too childish), I knew I needed to find a way to wiggle out of this thinking.

And what better way to do that than to use a generative AI chat bot to think for you? 😉 So here is Copilot on the matter of how wiggling relates to feminism:

Wiggling can be seen as a feminist act for several reasons. 1. Body autonomy: it promotes the freedom to move naturally, rejecting societal pressures on how bodies should behave. 2. Reclaiming space: it allows individuals to assert their presence and write to occupy space, number three joy and faithfulness, engaging in playful movement. Resist the control often imposed on bodies, especially women’s. Number four intersectionality at highlights how different bodies experience, various forms of oppression and liberation.
Screenshot of Elan asking Copilot how wiggling is a feminist act, and its brief responses.

Copilot doesn’t think. It doesn’t understand it’s own generated text. This last algorithmically predicted suggestion is a word salad. But the first three ideas make sense to me: I see my wiggling as helping me feel free, be in control of my body, and express joy.

Your wiggling

Do you wiggle? Would you consider your wiggling an empowering act? Is it time to get wiggling a little right now?

A child of the 80s and childfree today, The Wiggles, an Australian children’s entertainment group from the 1990s, never made it onto my radar until recently. But I was happy to discover that another fellow blogger, @isekhmet (Christine) knows about The Wiggles!

So, whether you are well-acquainted with this song, or you are just hearing it for the first times (or few dozen times—it gets in your head), here is “Get Ready to Wiggle” by The Wiggles (song lyrics). This is the “OG Wiggles.”

Get Ready to Wiggle by The Wiggles

Get Ready To Wiggle” is the very first song performed by The Wiggles. The song inspired the band’s name because they thought that wiggling described the way children dance.

fitness · skiing · tbt

#TBT: Snowy Boston and XC Skiing around town

This winter is teasing us in Boston with little flakes of snow every now and then, but no proper snowstorms. A few diehard friends have gotten out for cross-country skiing, but the cover is thin and doesn’t last long. I keep waiting for a foot to fall, but so far we’ve gotten an inch here, a few inches there– not enough to tempt me into the cold. Yet.

There is a freezing spray advisory for Boston Harbor today, which I’ve never heard of, but which sounds decidedly unpleasant. Be advised.

The outlook for this week is also pretty unclear about whether and how much snow we might get. I don’t like the adjectives they’re using here. “Few”? “Light”? Uh-uh. Not happy.

As they say, though, be careful what you wish for. And in the case of snow, I don’t have to wish– I can recall very clearly the winter of 2015. Boston got nearly 95 inches (241cm) of snow in ONE MONTH. The total that year was 110 inches (279 cm)!

Naturally, this amount of snowfall in such a short time ground transportation to a shusshing halt. Rails froze and track signals failed, buses lumbered as best they could, pedestrians had to use the streets because the sidewalks were buried. And no one could see anything because the snow was piled high everywhere. It was a commuting nightmare.

But for those who enjoy skiing, snowshoeing and walking in a winter landscape? Heaven. Chilly heaven, but heaven nonetheless.

I’m not exactly wishing for those days now, but I am feeling wistful, and intend on luring you into a similar pleasant feeling today.

Here’s my blog post from 10 years ago this February. Let’s take a little snowy journey back to Boston in 2015…

Readers, how’s the snow doing where you are? And how are you feeling about it (or the lack of it)? I’d love to hear about any yearnings, complaints, wishes, memories that you have.

advice · fitness · goals · habits · self care

Go Team 2025: Reconsidering Consistency

Hey Team,

What does consistency look like for you?

I know that in discussions about habit-building and life-enhancement there’s a lot of pressure to do your practices every day (and at the same time of day, for the same amount of time, and so on.)

There is value in that – it can be a lot easier to build momentum and to see your progress if you can do something every single day.

BUT

It’s also not feasible for a lot of people.

A lot of us don’t have the capacity to do our practices the same way every single day. We might have busy lives, we may have irregular schedules, we may have a caretaker role, we may have disabilities or chronic illnesses, or we may have some other variable that makes it impossible for us to predict our energy level/availability/schedule on any given day.

Our varying capacity doesn’t mean that we have to automatically abandon any plans to enhance or expand our lives.

(Although, that is a totally valid option if it’s what you need in this season of your life. You are the only one who can tell what will serve you best right now.)

Instead, we can benefit from reconsidering consistency and figuring out what regularly returning to our life-expanding practices could look like for us right now.

Identical daily practice is only one form of consistency.

Perhaps your form of consistency is doing something every day but your practice varies widely in time/schedule/location/activities/content.

Maybe your consistency looks like a weekly or monthly practice.

Or perhaps it looks like a different scale/scope of practice on different days of the week.

Maybe you have different practices for different types of energy.

Consistency can be any pattern of returning to a practice, even if the pattern is not easily spotted because it is stretched out over weeks, months, and years.

And while you may have multiple factors that affect your capacity, you are the best one to understand those factors, to understand your capacity, and to declare what consistency will look like for you right now.

So, Team, as you look back at your January efforts, I invite you to ask yourself, kindly, “In what ways was I consistent with my practices (or my planning!) this month?”

And then I hope you will seek out the patterns, identify the ways you kept returning to your practice (or plans), and note the efforts that you made for yourself.

You are not a robot with singular programming who can do the exact same thing at the exact same time in the exact same way every single day.

You are a human, operating in your own ecosystem, who has all kinds of factors affecting your approach to each day.

Rather than judging yourself against a single standard of consistency and being upset if/when you fall short, I hope you will develop your own parameters for consistency, celebrate when they work and change them when they don’t.

Here is your star for today’s efforts no matter what they were and no matter what type of consistency was involved. Your hard work matters and it all counts.

Go Team Us!

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Building Community, One Runner at a Time

When I moved to Kelowna seven years ago, I went out for a run with the club I had recently joined. There were just a few of us out that December morning—it was the holiday week run, added to the schedule for those who had extra free time over the break. The pace was relaxed and easy. I fell into conversation with another runner. He had moved to town a few months earlier, and we talked about our house searches and making the adjustment to new lives. I shared my fears about my first marathon, looming on the spring race horizon, and I asked him if he liked to race. He said he did, and when I asked him what his favourite distance was, he said, “5 km.”

It turns out that my running companion that day was David Guss, named Canadian Masters Athlete of the Year in 2019. That year he set two new records in the M55 division, including one for the 5 km distance. On that wintery day late in 2017, David would have been running a pace that, for him, must have felt like a crawl. But if the pace got on his nerves, it never showed. Nor did he mention any of his achievements or ambitions. Instead, he made time for someone trying to find her running feet in a new place. He made me feel welcome.

Ours is not a “no drop” running club, and most of the people I run with have paces and distances they want to hit as they advance their training programs. And I’ve heard plenty of stories from folks in other places about showing up for the first time to a run club, only to feel unwelcome or intimidated. Which raises the question, for me: What does it take to build community when all of us have a plan of our own? 

The answer came to me when I talked it over with pals on my long run last week. Community never happens accidentally. It happens because people take time to notice the newcomers, to answer, with care, emails they might send, to find out about their goals and their history. It happens because someone makes sure the newbies have running partners when they’re trying out the club for fit, and because someone makes sure they’re invited to stay for coffee afterward.

 I say “someone” because it could be anyone in the club, not just the members of the leadership team. Indeed, to welcome others is, in any circumstance, a collective responsibility. But that means that we all need to remind ourselves to reach out to the newcomer, not hope that someone else will do the work. And, for runners, it means that we should each slow down, once in a while, and put someone else ahead of checking the time on our watches.

Kelowna Running Club.
Kelowna Running Club.
ADHD · fitness · goals · habits · motivation · self care

Go Team 2025: Your Personal ‘Ecosystem’

Hey Team,

When it comes to making changes or to adding new things into their lives, my coaching clients often forget to consider how it will affect their personal ecosystem – and while I catch it when they do it, I sometimes don’t notice when I do the same thing.

Now, I don’t mean a literal, scientifically-defined, ecosystem, of course – in this case, an ‘ecosystem’ is kind of a metaphor for all the interlocking parts of our lives.

Because while we know intellectually that home life, family life, personal needs, plans, hobbies, and all the other parts of life are connected and that they all affect one another, in practice, we forget.

We forget that trying to change one aspect of our lives will affect and be affected by everything else we have going on.

And we forget how that complicates things.

We can’t pull time and energy out of the air, it has to come from somewhere.

When we take extra time/energy for a new or expanded practice, something else is going to have to shift to accommodate that.

And, conversely, when our family life or work life or our health takes more time or energy, it is going to affect the time/energy we have available for our practices.

A change anywhere in the ecosystem is going to affect a lot (if not all!) of the other pieces.

There’s nothing wrong with you if a change in one area of your life has repercussions in another. You have a lot of interrelated things to deal with and you have finite energy, finite time, and finite resources.

And acknowledging that and being kind to ourselves about that fact is the only way to deal with the whole thing.

It’s ok to have to shift, alter, reduce, or drop other things in order to add something new to your life.

And, of course, it’s ok to seek support and help in any area of your life so you can add something life-enhancing in another one.

I’m not suggesting this is an easy, one-off process. It make take several tries (and some firm requests) to find a new equilibrium, to reshape your ecosystem to support you in adding new things, but it will be worth the effort.

And you may find that the nature of your current ecosystem will require a very, very slow process for adding anything new and that’s totally ok, too. (Understanding the time and energy you have available is part of managing your expectations.)

Basically, I’m hoping you can be very, very kind to yourself about all aspects of your ecosystem, your current life realities, and give yourself the time and the breathing room to add new things or make changes at a sustainable pace.

So, Team, today I am inviting you to consider your efforts in the context of your ecosystem.

What pressures are you facing that are working for or against your new practices?

What options do you have to adjusting or dealing with those pressures?

What parts of your ecosystem have some flexibility in them that might give you room to grow in another area?

How can you practice self-kindness within your ecosystem and how can you practice it when/if the system is in flux?

Above all, please remember that you are just one human trying to keep this whole system working. Sometimes (often!) things will go wrong, things will be complicated, there will be challenging times. That is not indicative of failure on your part, it’s a sign that something needs to shift or change and the kinder you can be to yourself in the process, the better the results will be.

And here, of course, is a cheerful gold star for your efforts today, whether you are considering your ecosystem or working up the energy to brush your hair, your efforts matter and your hard work counts.

Go Team Us!

A drawing of a gold star with rounded corners.
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I’m Relieved Not To Be Doing Yoga With Adrienne

Every January for the past few years, Adrienne has prepared a series of yoga workouts available for each day in January. Many of the FIFI community have joined in for all or part of her series. This year, she opted to do only a seven day set, which I am happy to ignore

Adrienne is lovely, and her dog Benji is a delight. But I felt a certain pressure to join the crowd and do yoga every day in January, even though yoga really isn’t my thing.

The pressure was entirely self-imposed and arose simply because I knew others were doing it. Sounds a bit like every other New Year’s resolution. And it gave me the same result as so many resolutions: I struggled to make it to the end of January, then abandoned the habit all together. Kind of like Steve.

My January was filled with activities that gave me joy: lots of swimming and dancing, a bit of riding my bike. No winter activities like skating, snowshoeing or cross-country skiing yet, but the weather looks promising for February.

So thanks Adrienne for putting in all the work to develop those videos year after year, but also thanks for giving me a good excuse to stop trying to keep up with you every January.

fitness · goals · habits · self care

Go Team 2025: You’re the only person in this division

Hey Team,

As we get closer to the end of the month, we’re going to see all kinds of posts about how much everyone else accomplished.

If you find that inspiring, then go ahead and read or watch as many of those as you like.

But if you find them disheartening, then please consider this your official permission/encouragement to ignore every last one of those posts.

Why?

Because even aside from the fact all of that content is curated so people can show themselves in the very best light, their successes are irrelevant to you.

Why?

Because you are not competing with them for ‘best life.’

When it comes to your life-expanding, life-enhancing projects, there is no competition at all.

You are the only person in your division, your category, your bracket.

You aren’t even competing with your past self, you are just doing what you can with your current resources.

There is literally no one else with your specific combination of experience, plans, and life circumstances at this very moment so there is no real way to compare.

There is no way to judge yourself against someone else because there are too many different factors involved.

So while someone else may be able to run faster or do more pushups or stay calmer than you, they aren’t ’doing better’ because they aren’t doing those things while living *your* life.

I’m not suggesting that we can instantly and magically stop comparing ourselves to others but I am suggesting that it is worth noticing when we get into comparison mode.

And, once we notice, we can remind ourselves that we are the only person in our division and we are doing the best we can with the resources we have.

There is no point in feeling bad because we don’t ’measure up’ or because we *should* (blech! Hate that word!) be further ahead.

We are in our own division and other people’s practices and progresses are interesting information that may be useful in some way but don’t directly apply to us.

So, Team, today I invite you to consider the fact that you are the only person in your division and that your practice can’t be measured against other people’s activities.

And I invite you to celebrate how well you are doing – the practices you have done, the information you have gathered, any successes you have measured, and/or the plans you have made, the plans you have decided to implement, and the ones you rejected because they were not right for you.

And I offer these gold stars for your efforts, no matter what those efforts look like today.

Please be kind to yourself out there.

Go Team Us!

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ADHD · fitness · goals · habits · health · motivation · planning · self care

Planuary is a state of mind

I’m pretty happy with how Planuary has gone this year.

I’ve managed to make some plans, test out a few ideas, and do some structured thinking about how I want to roll out some projects.

I haven’t actually taken a lot of action yet but actions are not the focus of Planuary anyway!

So, here are a few updates:

Journaling

Reflective journaling is going pretty well. I’m not getting to it daily yet but I am moving in that direction.

But if I don’t get to it in the morning, I need to find stronger ways to remind myself about it at other times of the day.

A dog is next to an e-reader on a bed in a dimly lit room. The device is glowing and lighting the dog’s face.
This photo of Khalee has nothing to do with my post but I thought it was funny because it looks like I interrupted her while she was reading. Image description: my dog, Khalee, is lying on her belly on my bed with her head raised. The room is dim and my ereader is glowing next to her, lighting the side of her face, and it kind of looks like she has turned from her book to look at the camera.

Yoga/Pushups

I did my yoga practice most days last week but my choices were hampered a bit by the fact that I woke up one day with a wonky knee.

So now I am working on my knee and my upper body and I am putting the ‘incorporate pushups’ part of the plan off for another week until my knee is less weird.

5 Extra Minutes of Movement

I have been doing pretty good with this one. I added 5 minutes of deliberate extra movement four out of seven days this week.

My knee is playing a role here but in two of those four days I chose extra seated movement so clearly it wasn’t the only factor on those other three days.

Maybe I need to say I will get 5 extra minutes of seated movement during the next week and see if that shift opens any mental doors to moving daily.

Next Steps

Since this is my last Tuesday post in January, this is technically my last Planuary post.

However, like the post title says, Planuary is a state of mind.

I want to keep this reflective, curious approach going throughout the year so I am figuring out what that practice might look like.

Last year, I decided that I didn’t really want to plan anything for the whole year, I just wanted to take it month by month and I’m sticking with that idea for 2025.

But I do want to keep checking in with myself and revisiting my ideas/plans/practices in a more structured but still Christine-friendly way.

So, I am starting with these questions:

How and when will I decided what is important for a given month?

How will I keep those things top of mind?

How will I record/reflect/track the details and feelings involved?

When and how will I write about them?

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Updates as events warrant. 😉