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Go Team 2023! Decide on Something Small

Before I begin today, I’d like to remind you that you do NOT have to make changes, start resolutions, or make new year plans. If you feel drawn towards those kinds of things, that’s cool. If you hate those kinds of things, that’s cool, too.

And, if you are a resolutions type of person with your plans for the year all set up and you’re working away at them – go you! We all need to find a way that works for us and keeps us feeling good about ourselves as we move forward. In your case, today’s post might be good to have in your metaphorical back pocket in case you need it one day.

Meanwhile, I’m over here with no actual plans yet, just a vague sense of wanting to improve my overall well-being through movement and rest this year.

I know that will take some planning and some up-front work and experimentation but I need to do some thinking and writing and research to figure out the details.

And I’m ok with that. In fact, as I noted in a recent post, I am in Planuary not January right now.

If you are also in Planuary, or just if you are still deciding what you want to do, or if you know what you want to do but are still getting in gear to do it, I’d like to invite you to decide something small.

By that, I mean to pick a little something that is at least somewhat related to a direction you may want to move in. (That might be the vaguest sentence I have ever written. Bahahaha!)

This isn’t about deciding on Step 1. It isn’t about keeping yourself busy. This is a way of anchoring the space you created yesterday.

So, for example, I know that I want to strengthen my core this year. And I know that any exercises for my core will help. I also know that I will need to get specific at some point or I won’t actually follow though.

But I don’t have a plan or strategy *yet.* Right now, I just have a sense that this is a direction I want to move towards.

So, yesterday, I decided that since on most days I can exercise in the evening, I would create mental space in my evening routine for exercise.

And since I don’t have a plan in place, anything would do for now.

So, I picked 5 core exercises I like and did 5 reps of each one.

It was a manageable amount. It had defined parameters (i.e. it was clear when I was done.) And it felt like I did something useful for my eventual plan.

I didn’t have to overdo it. I didn’t have to create a huge framework for future fitness. I could just decide on something small that would move me in the right direction.

And it is something I can keep doing while I decide what ELSE I want to do.

And I’d like to invite you to give this a try.

Whatever you are mulling over right now, decide on a small version to try. See how it feels, physically and mentally.

If it felt good – stick with it while you figure out what’s next. If it was too tiring or if it felt bad – adjust things for next time.

Note: Judging from my personal past experience, there’s a decent chance that your ‘something small’ will only seem small in comparison to your envisioned future result. When you try it, you may find that your ‘something small’ was actually fairly big. If that’s the case, don’t despair – just go smaller.

And, of course, please be kind to yourself in the process. Making plans, making changes, and trying new things can all be challenging, tricky, stressful processes. If you find these things hard, try to give yourself time to adjust and to recover – you need what you need and trying to ‘tough it out’ may just make things harder. Sure, we all need to persevere and push through sometimes but we can’t stay in that mode all the time.

Here’s your gold star for your efforts today whether you are working your plan, working on a plan, or working towards considering working on a plan.

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