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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Friday Link Round Up #101

This week’s link round up looks at some puzzles and problems related to sports. Enjoy and let us know what you think in the comments below!

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🔴 The Rules of Race Walking When I taught philosophy of sport, one of the puzzles that students love concerns the role of rules in establishing what a sport is. And one of the funniest cases is the case of race walking.

“This has nothing to do with physics, but racewalking. Here are the rules. Walk so that one foot is always on the ground, and keep your front legs straight. In short, do a funny walk really fast. There’s also something funny about the rules, though. The judges who determine whether or not a competitor is indeed walking are only allowed to stand stationary at the side of the course and judge by eye whether the competitors appear to be walking. You would think that for a sport whose definition is so technical, they’d appeal to all possible technology to enforce the rules.”

It’s worth clicking through and watching the video.

🔴 Are women’s abilities in sports systematically underestimated? That’s the question two University of Guelph faculty are collaborating on in a new research project, funded through @EallianceSport. Learn more about Dr. Sandeep Mishra and Dr. Jing Wan’s project here.

“The purpose of our research project is to investigate whether there is a systematic underestimation of women athletes’ abilities, and if so, how this underestimation manifests. We predict that people hold implicit, unconscious beliefs about gender and athleticism, which will colour their perceptions of athletic performance. We further predict that people’s subjective perception of an athlete’s skill will be more heavily influenced by gender stereotypes, rather than factual information (e.g., objective speed of a kicked ball).”

-Dr. Jing Wan

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🔴What if everything we know about gymnastics is wrong? Can high-level gymnastics training be done humanely? Chellsie Memmel, a former Olympian who made a comeback at 31, and other gymnasts everywhere are done with inhumane coaching — and the idea that they have to peak in their teens.

🔴 Is Sport Sexist? Why do men’s and women’s gymnastics have so little in common? Just two events. “Each event is designed to show off the gender’s natural qualities. An opportunity for the flexible and graceful sequined-wearing female to sparkle and the biceps-bulging male to test his strength and power. Peacocking for both sexes, just through different means. While women compete in four apparatus (vault, uneven bars, balance beam and floor), men have six events (floor, pommel horse, rings, vault, parallel bars and high bar).” And it’s not just gymnastics, what about cross country, speed skating, and track cycling? In those sports men and women compete in different distance events. And then there’s tennis!

Here’s an abstract for a paper in the journal Philosophy of Sport, Is it defensible for women to play fewer sets than men in grand slam tennis? “Is it defensible for women to play fewer sets than men in grand slam tennis? Lacking in the philosophy of sport is discussion of the gendered numbers of sets played in Grand Slam tennis. We argue that the practice is indefensible. It can be upheld only through false beliefs about women or repressive femininity ideals. It treats male tennis players unfairly in forcing them to play more sets because of their sex. Its ideological consequences are pernicious, since it reinforces the respective identifications of the female and male with physical limitation and heroism. Both sexes have compelling reason to reject the practice.”

Do you really think Serena Williams couldn’t play another set? Really?

2020 Women’s ASB Classic: Day 7
Serena Williams, 2020, Getty Images

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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Friday Link Round Up #98: Wild Swimming Videos

As I noted on Monday we’re on a bit of cold weather/outdoors swimming kick around the blog. Here’s some of the videos I’ve found. If you have any that you recommend, that I’ve missed please let us know in the comments!

Alpkit are delighted to present ‘Chasing the Sublime’, a mesmeric glimpse at the physicality of long distance cold water swimming by award winning director Amanda Bluglass (2019)
A mini-documentary showing the link between mental health and sea swimming. Katie swims off the rocks of Penzance, UK nearly everyday of the year. Open water swimming has helped her overcome some of the struggles that life all too often throws our way. The hope is that her story may help others who are faced with similar challenges. (2017)
“[Wild swimming] connects you to a part of yourself that you don’t normally have access to…” When chaotic city life had taken its toll, we turned to nature. Join us as we escape the traps of urban life and immerse ourselves in the timeless escape of wild swimming… Watch Swim Wild (in partnership with General Tire) and find out more about this transformative journey here: http://bit.ly/SwimWild (2018)
Seven tips and advice to help you start wild open water swimming. Check the Cold Water Wild Swimming video here: https://youtu.be/wptKtR3LGZU​ (2020)
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Fit is a Feminist issue, Friday Link Round Up #97

This week’s link round up focuses on weight loss. If you want to know why a fitness blog cares so much about body image and weight loss, you can read this.

Tl;dr: “Body image is connected to fitness in a variety of ways. It’s both the motivation for lots of women to pursue physical activity. I’ll solve my body image issues by improving my body! Body image anxiety is also the reason lots of women don’t exercise. I can’t go to the gym. I’m too fat! Both of these sets of motivations are problematic.”

Why Everything You’ve Been Told About Weight Loss May Be Wrong

“At any given time, about half of all Americans are trying to lose weight — and we can assume it will be even more than that once everyone emerges from our collective bread-and-cookie-insulated quarantine cocoon. That means millions of people are doing keto, paleo, intermittent fasting, Optavia, Atkins, and all the other diets (many of which we’ve explained and reviewed on GH) that limit what, when and how you eat. And as you can tell from all those “before and after” Instagram shots, some dieters do lose weight — at least at first. But for the majority it inevitably comes back, potentially leading to guilt, disappointment, and the biggest question of all: What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I keep off the weight?

Here’s the truth: It’s not you. It’s biology.

The dirty little secret of the dieting industry is that many diets will fail. But we are still bombarded with the message that if we only find the right diet we will be thin — which has been conflated with “beautiful” in our culture — and all our troubles will melt away along with our love handles. “The diet industry is a $72 billion dollar business, so there’s an extraordinary amount of money that’s hooked into selling the idea that there is something wrong with us, and if only we buy their product, we can find salvation,” says Lindo Bacon, Ph.D., associate nutritionist at UC-Davis and author of Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your WeightBut according to one well known study at UCLA, not only do most people eventually gain back the weight they lost on diets, but as many as two-thirds may wind up gaining back more.”

Rethinking Fatness: Why Everything You’ve Been Told About Weight May Be Wrong

“Low-fat, low-carb, Paleo, keto, South Beach, intermittent fasting—the list goes on. Given that our culture idealizes thinness and shuns larger bodies, it’s not surprising that nearly one in five midlife women has dieted in the past few years, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. And many have regained the weight and see themselves as having failed. Less than 1% of very large people got to a “normal” weight at all in a study that included almost 100,000 women, and most who did regained the pounds they had lost within five years.

Some medical experts are now saying what many of us have been desperate to hear: It’s extremely tough to drop weight long-term, for reasons that have nothing to do with willpower—and it may not even be necessary.”

The Last Thing Fat Kids Need

“The message that “good parents” can and should control the number on the scale is literally tearing families apart. Should your child’s weight determine your fitness to be a parent? According to a family court judge in Sussex, England, the answer seems to be yes. In a decision filed last October, which recently made international headlines, District Judge Gillian Ellis ordered that then–16-year-old “Child C” and 13-year-old “Child D” be placed in foster care after their parents failed to help them lose weight. “I know that you love your mother and father very much and I know they love you too,” Ellis wrote. “But I am concerned about your health and the way in which your weight impacts on this.”

What If Everything You Know About Weight Loss Is Wrong?

“Why is it so hard to lose weight? Here’s one reason: A lot of what we all take for granted about weight loss is unproven or flat-out wrong. That’s the bottom line from a special article published in 2013 in the New England Journal of Medicine. The article laid out what works and what doesn’t, and detailed the commonly held weight loss beliefs that are not supported by research. The review also unveiled some of the theories that have not been proven or disproven. Here are some of the most surprising theories, plus what science really says about them”

I lost 100 pounds and didn’t learn a damned thing…

from 2019 by Meagan McGovern

“Man, I really wanted to write a long post about how much better and smarter and amazing I am now that I’ve lost 100 pounds. How much thinner I am. Maybe some clever words about my poor boobs, and about my clothes, and then I could post some before-and-afters, and then the congratulations could pour in.
But the truth is so much more complicated. Losing 100 pounds doesn’t make you smarter, more organized, or able to find your car keys. It doesn’t make me a better wife, a better mother, or a better writer.
Really, it just makes me smaller. And squishier. And more confused than ever about the role of women and weight and hunger and exercise and our culture.
So instead I wrote to Roxane Gay, who seems to write about weight and women with raw truth and clarity. And I’m grateful for it.”

A woman on a treadmill wearing a blue and grey shirt and khaki pants. Photo by Julia Larson on Pexels.com
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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Friday Link Round Up #96

Trans-athletes and the right to participate in sport

Meet Rebekah, a Trans 14-Year-Old Who Just Wants to Play Sports

In real life, transgender girls in sports are a non-controversy: Retired high school coach

Transgender pro athlete weighs in on sports inclusion controversy

Random Good news

Heavily pregnant Idrees wins taekwondo gold at Nigerian National Sports Festival

North Texas Pitcher Strikes Out All 21 Batters in Perfect Game

Exclusion and inclusion

BIKEPOC group working to make Toronto’s cycling community more welcoming to under-represented groups

France’s hijab ban strips sports of its ability to empower

Woman in blue sports bra and gray leggings doing yoga. Photo by  Juan Algar Carrascosa  on  Scopio

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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Friday Link Round Up #95, Inclusive Fitness Fashion

Today’s link round up focusses on fitness, fashion, and inclusivity.

Athleta’s Latest Launch Is The Inclusivity Push In The Fitness Industry I’ve Been Waiting For

“Those of us trying to be more active who don’t fit society’s image of what “health and wellness” looks like can often feel excluded. While the fitness industry has made strides in recent years, shopping for activewear can still prove challenging at times. I mean really, how can any of us be expected to start hitting the gym when it’s a challenge to even find workout gear that fits us? The double standard has been weighing on a lot of us for a really long time. But Athleta’s latest push for inclusivity is moving the needle forward.”

6 Women And Brands That Are Making Fitness More Size-Inclusive

“There’s no denying that a lot of work needs to be done to make fitness a happier, more fulfilling relationship for women everywhere, of any size. For so many women, diet culture has morphed movement from a joyful activity to an unsatisfying means to an end. Not only can this rob exercise of fun, but it also continues to make women (myself, included) feel pulled to move for the sake of shrinking ourselves. Luckily, there’s a growing movement of incredible women and initiatives leading the charge towards change. Through their own journeys of rejecting diet culture’s influence over fitness and embracing their bodies, they’ve nurtured a healthier relationship with movement that’s inclusive of all shapes and (finally) filled with fun.”

Sure they’re comfortable, but those leggings and sports bras are also redefining modern femininity

“In our own research, we argue that wearing activewear in public is a way of saying “I am in charge of my health” and conforming to socially acceptable understandings of femininity. In this sense, activewear (not to be confused with its less sporty “athleisure” offshoot) has become the uniform of what we might term the “socially responsible 21st-century woman.” Part of the appeal of activewear is that it is comfortable and functional. But it has also been designed to physically shape the body into a socially desirable hourglass female form.”

Attention Plus-Size Athletes: Superfit Hero Extends Their Size Run To 7X

“This week activewear brand, Superfit Hero, announced that they will phase out their smallest sizes – extra-small, small and medium – in favor of extending their size run through 7X permanently. The change starts with their newest collection, also released this week, which includes sports bras, leggings, and shorts in sizes 12 through 42.  CEO Micki Krimmel said in a statement that this decision came after extensive research that focused on the unique needs of plus-size athletes. During interviews, customers described many of their shopping experiences as “traumatic,” stating that “lack of access, inconsistent sizing, and ill-fitting, low-quality garments” led to a feeling of disenfranchisement. She says Superfit Hero wants to solve this problem.”

Can evil companies change their ways? Yes, that’s you we’re talking about Lululemon

“Me, I like their yoga pants and I guess I hope companies can change. We’re all works in progress, even Lululemon. And yes, capitalism and yes, co-opting. But there’s no pure path. This is the world we live and work in.”

I know it’s an ad but I like it, thanks Under Armour

“This looks, to me, like an inclusive ad done right. It’s not thin white women. They don’t have perfect bodies. They’re working hard and having fun. Count me in.”


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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Friday Link Round Up #94

This is where we share stuff we can’t share on Facebook page. Sometimes it’s for fear of being kicked out! Read why here. Usually the posts are about body image, sometimes there’s nudity but we’re all adults here. Right? Other times it’s because we can’t easily moderate comments on the FB page and things get out of control fast. Here, most of the time, conversations tend to be calmer and slower. I’m not sharing these links because I agree with everything in them. I think they are all of interest to people interested in the connections between fitness and feminism.

  • The future of sex in elite sport: Sex has long been used to divide sporting competitions in the name of fairness, but are the current rules and enforcement practices fit for purpose?
  • My problem with the discourse around “obesity” “Fatness and sex actually have a lot in common. The problem with fatness is very similar to the problem with sex. American society doesn’t know enough about these topics because they’re horrifically understudied. And they’re horrifically understudied in large part because they’re so stigmatized. They’re also very gendered. The way people socialized as men experience sex and fatness are quite different from the way people socialized as women experience them.”
  • Fat and Healthy? What the Science Says About Longevity and WeightAccording to a 2014 U.S. study, more than two-thirds of respondents agree with the statement, “one of the worst things that could happen to a person would be for [them] to become obese.” Presumably, there’s a fear of weight stigma, shortened life expectancy, and poorer quality of life. This article aims to examine what the science says about what adipose tissue really does to the body, look at how it affects human life extension, and suggest considerations for larger individuals who are spanners.”  
  • Weight Shaming (Not Free Doughnuts) Is The Real Health Threat. Here’s Why. “Those who have spoken out against the free doughnut incentive argue that eating doughnuts might ruin someone’s health. But other experts pointed out that this isn’t really about health — it’s about fatphobia. “By couching this in terms of health, people can more readily express fatphobic sentiment without repercussion because it’s seen as coming from a place of ‘concern’ for well-being,” said Jeffrey Hunger, an assistant professor and social psychology researcher at Miami University in Ohio who studies the health consequences of stigma.”
  • 5.2 million people die from inactivity each year: what’s the solution? Around 1.5bn people worldwide are so inactive they are risking their long-term health. But fixing this problem could help save both people and planet.
  • Megan Rapinoe: Bills to ban transgender kids from sports try to solve a problem that doesn’t exist “These bills are attempting to solve a problem that doesn’t exist. Transgender kids want the opportunity to play sports for the same reasons other kids do: to be a part of a team where they feel like they belong. Proponents of these bills argue that they are protecting women. As a woman who has played sports my whole life, I know that the threats to women’s and girls’ sports are lack of funding, resources and media coverage; sexual harassment; and unequal pay.”
  • Why are Americans Obsessed with Fitness? Historian Jürgen Martschukat argues we’ve lost the joy in moving our bodies, “What’s especially peculiar about the West’s fitness-mania is that it isn’t tied to organized sport, nor to winning a medal, but rather the goal of “achieving a fit body.” That goal has become a mechanism to perpetuate privilege, Martschukat writes. “This body, in turn, stands for an array of partially overlapping forces, abilities and ideals, which point far beyond the doing of the sport,” he says. “These encompass one’s health and performance in everyday life and at work, productivity and the ability to cope with challenging situations, potency, a slim figure, and a pleasing appearance according to the prevalent standards of beauty.”
  • Extreme Exercise Carries Metabolic Consequences “As a researcher at the Swedish School of Sport and Health Sciences, Filip Larsen would hear anecdotes about the downsides of too much exercise—a common enough phenomenon that nevertheless puzzled him. “All athletes know if you train too much, something’s happening. . . . Your legs feel terrible after a while, and then if you just continue, you have these psychological disturbances too, like mood disturbances,” he says. “That hasn’t been really described in the literature—no one knows exactly what’s going on.” To find out, Larsen and his colleagues recruited 11 healthy young people and put them through a four-week, increasingly intense regimen of sessions on a stationary bike while monitoring their glucose tolerance and mitochondrial function. During the toughest week, the subjects displayed insulin resistance and other deleterious metabolic changes, the team reported last week (March 18) in Cell Metabolism.”
  • Roll flower tattoos celebrate fat bodies in their natural state Artist Carrie Metz-Caporusso created these designs to highlight a part of the body society usually tells us to be ashamed of.
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Fit is a Feminist Issue Friday Link Round Up #93

5 ways to address negative body image during COVID-19

“For many of us, this past year has been full of stress, uncertainty and rapid changes that make it hard to adapt. These factors can affect the relationships we have with food, our bodies, physical activity and the way we see ourselves. One way to combat negative self-talk and negative body-image is to practice body acceptance. Body acceptance is about more than just accepting how our bodies look at this moment in time. It’s also about accepting that our bodies are meant to change. Our bodies are meant to age, change shape and change size. It’s also important to remember that it’s okay and normal for our eating habits, activity levels and body weight to change over time and in response to stress.  Showing our bodies appreciation for everything they’ve gotten us through can help us cultivate a more positive relationship with ourselves. Here are 5 ways you can honor your body and show yourself a little appreciation.”

Influencer Natalie Noel, 24, bringing body positivity to Sports Illustrated Swim

SI Swimsuit, led by editor MJ Day, has become known for representing inclusive body types as women of all shapes, sizes, backgrounds and ages appear across the magazine’s pages. Day has also made a point to select women with empowering stories to tell. In a post revealing this year’s first rookie, she said that Mariduena’s entrepreneurial spirit was one of the biggest reasons that the influencer was selected. “She recognizes the importance of changing the industry, using her following and her notoriety to help others,” Day wrote.”

The Gist Podcast: Ep #57: NBA drama, Aussie Open action, skier Mikaela Shiffrin besting the me‪n

“This week co-hosts Ellen and Steph break down all of the NBA drama including Golden State Warrior Draymond Green calling out the league for their unfair double-standard on how they treat teams and players when it comes to trades. Juicy. Add that to a woman worth watching moment of the week featuring alpine skier Mikaela Shiffrin, and this podcast has everything you need. Tune in, won’t you?”

The Master Cleanse on Maintenance Phase

“Are your moods too stable? Is your face free of cold sores? Get your lemon juice, maple syrup and cayenne pepper ready, because this week we’re talking about celebrity favorite THE MASTER CLEANSE!Along the way we roast New Atheism, praise Gwyneth…”

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Fit is a Feminist Issue Friday Link Round Up #92/Mark Your Calendars

In the past we regularly shared links in a round up post that we couldn’t share on our Facebook page for fear of being kicked out. Read why here. Often the posts are about body image, sometimes there’s nudity but we’re all adults here. Right? Right. Today’s links are more about events that I think regular blog readers might be interested in. I think I’ll start doing weekly round ups again, some events and some things that aren’t appropriate for Facebook sharing. It’ll be a mix.

  1. Lessons from women 55+ on ageism and the importance of remaining engaged in physical activity, recreation and sport: This session will explore ageism and the ways in which to overcome it in order to get women 55+ engaged in physical activity and recreation. Further, we will hear about work being done by Canadian Women and Sport (formerly CAAWS) that describes the challenges, solutions and motivations for women to become and stay active. Finally, two speakers will share how they’ve put these lessons into practice and talk about their own personal lived experience.This webinar is a part of CPRA’s Gender Equity in Recreational Sport initiative. The initiative includes a number of projects informed by best practices and evidence, in an effort to increase the participation and retention of women and girls in recreational sport in Canada. This effort received funding from, and supports, the Government of Canada (Sport Canada) commitment to achieve gender equity in sport at every level by 2035. https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_Mh0joH-qSGGF4gzpbbRO6w

Mar 10, 2021 12:00 PM in Eastern Time (US and Canada)

2. Where are all the fat people?

“Once a friend of mine observed that in their daily life, they just felt like they didn’t see many fat people at all. And it’s true: fat people are often missing from public life, especially very fat people. Why might that be?

BMI is bull, but let’s use the master’s tool for a moment to examine the master’s house. I live in a body that is quite fat and my BMI is 42, so let’s use a BMI of 40 as our starting point. Depending on which source you reference, people with a BMI of 40 or more comprise 6-10% of the American population, so around 10% of the population is fat of the kind that you’d notice walking around in public. So where are they? Why isn’t at least 1 in 10 of the people you see out and about (in non-COVID times) very fat?

Well, that 10% of the population is also a group of people who face significant barriers accessing public life at all. Thin people have designed a world that excludes us.”

3. (HUMOUR) I’M A SHORT AFTERNOON WALK AND YOU’RE PUTTING WAY TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON ME McSweeney’s

4. More women age 70+ out there running: “I’ve just looked at @parkrunUK participation figures for women aged 70+ & found that from 2017 to 2019 their participation increased by more than 140% – I find this very encouraging – more older women being active is good news.”

5. Coming up, International Women’s Day Bike Ride, March 8, 2021

6. Social Media Can Increase Risk Of Eating Disorders And Negative Body Image

“Research indicates a correlation between time spent on social media and increased risk for eating disorders exists; however, it is hard to conclude that social media directly causes eating disorders,” said Allison Forti, Ph.D., LCMHC, NCC, associate teaching professor and associate director of the Department of Counseling Online Programs at Wake Forest University.

“The intersection of social media and eating disorders is complicated,” Forti added. “On the one hand, it serves as an outlet to mask, cultivate, or inspire eating disorders.”

One example of this is in how social media platforms promote wellness or healthy eating, for some, are also the precipice for orthorexia nervosa, an obsession with healthy eating that can lead to emotional distress and physical problems, suggested Forti.”

7. Beauty vs body: MSU’s female student-athletes share body image struggles

“Body image is a struggle for almost all female athletes at some point in their careers. In total, 68% of female athletes said they felt pressured to be pretty in a study conducted by ESPNW. Also, 30% responded with a fear of being “too muscular.”

Between every set and during every rep, women athletes think about that.”

8. Chelsea Handler celebrates her 46th birthday skiing topless at Whistler

“It’s important to stay hydrated as well as relaxed, and it’s also important to celebrate your body no matter what age or size,” she said in her Instagram caption. Handler sported Canadian and American flags on her ski helmet, explaining the two nations are the countries she feels the strongest ties to. “I’m learning that no matter what country I’m in, I like to take my clothes off and smile,” she said.”

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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Link Round Up #91

This is where we share stuff we can’t share on Facebook page for fear of being kicked out! Read why here. Usually the posts are about body image, sometimes there’s nudity but we’re all adults here. Right?

I Couldn’t Find Any Disability Maternity Photos So I Made My Own

http://www.cbc.ca/parents/learning/view/i-couldnt-find-any-disability-maternity-photos-so-i-made-my-own

Dress the Part: Burlesque Dancer Jezebel Express

100 Women Get Together To Fight Beauty Stereotypes

Decolonizing beauty: Why are fat bodies the subject of so much hate and controversy?

#DecolonizingBeauty is an ongoing photography project by visual artist Saddi Khali and yesterday when we posted one of his gorgeous images on Instagram, it was really clear that some of y’all really hate seeing fat bodies. A strange thing to focus on when we’re celebrating black love. “Being fat is unhealthy!” Wow, amazing. Surely you’re the first person to say that.

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Fit is a Feminist Issue, Link Round Up #90

This is where we share stuff we can’t share on Facebook page for fear of being kicked out! Read why here. Usually the posts are about body image, sometimes there’s nudity but we’re all adults here. Right?

Sex-Positivity Means Unlearning Shame

Much of my sex education came from social myths. It seemed widely understood that for people assigned male at birth, pursuing sex was totally normal and natural, but for people assigned female at birth (AFAB), it was devious and shameful. Adolescent me looked on in horror as the girls who wore low-cut shirts or miniskirts were admonished for having no self-respect, and the ones who made out in the back rows of movie theatres were villainized and shamed for being “sluts.  l I learned, through years of observing the social stigma attached to sexual girls, that sex was something to do quietly and privately — that if I was going to do it, no one should know.

For years, I believed that something was wrong with me for being curious about sex for pleasure and for fantasizing about being intimate with another body like mine. I saw sex as something strange and dangerous, not just for the physical risks it posed to the body, but for how quickly it could lower one’s social worth. So I suppressed my sexual desires. I learned to be ashamed of them.

The Rise Of ‘Sex Menus’: Cataloguing Your Kinks

It was my very wise friend Toni who introduced me to the sex menu. She created hers to avoid the tricky, mood-killer conversation about what she didn’t enjoy in bed. The menu, she reasoned, could be a way of sidestepping the underwhelming sex we too-often have to endure with new partners.

Her menu is broken down into three categories: “Things I Love”, “Things I Don’t” and “Things I’m Curious About”. There’s stars next to the things that make her orgasm, and she also has a little introduction characterising her general sexual outlook, because, well, she’s just that much of a badass. As a lover of both thoroughly well organised Google Docs and doing freaky sex things, I decided to write my own.

It’s a simple idea, but the sex menu is pretty revolutionary. When was the last time you did a thorough inventory of all your kinks and desires, all really focused on the kind of sex you’d like to be having? We routinely evaluate our feelings and goals relating to say, work or physical fitness, but rarely afford the same level of analysis to our sex lives. Writing a sex menu gives your desires the headspace they deserve, and puts the emphasis firmly on what actually works for you.

The Sex Educator Teaching BDSM to People With Disabilities

It’s impossible to miss Robin Wilson-Beattie when she walks into a room. With chin-length purple hair, perfectly drawn red lips, and cat-eye glasses, she looks like she walked off the pages of a punk rock Sears catalog from 1960. Then there’s her walker, which is covered in flower stickers.

Wilson-Beattie is a disability and sexual health educator spreading the message that people with disabilities want to have sex—and that they’re into the same things as anyone else, from missionary to full-on BDSM.

“People just assume that people with disabilities aren’t interested in having sex,” Wilson-Beattie told Broadly. “I don’t understand that thinking at all. It’s part of human instinct. Having a disability doesn’t mean you don’t want to eat. Or you don’t breathe. Or you don’t want to sleep.”

Why This Mom Won’t Teach Her Daughter to Dress Modestly

Jessica and Jeremy Martin-Weber have six daughters, ranging in age from 5 to 18, and a baby on the way in the fall. With all that experience, they’ve learned a few things about parenting, which they share on their family blog and Facebook page, Beyond Moi.

Among lighter parenting fare, the Martin-Webers frequently discuss topics such as sex positivity, body autonomy and consent, and the toxicity of gender roles for boys and girls. All these play into their recent Facebook post on why they don’t enforce a modest standard of dress for their six daughters.

“We were asked yesterday and have been asked before what are our standards of modesty in how our children dress and how do we enforce that,” Jessica began the post, which included a photo of herself and two of her daughters in summer clothing.

“Here’s the short version: we don’t teach or enforce any standards of modest dress for our children,” she wrote.