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When you call me beautiful, I don’t just hear you. I hear the echoes of years’ worth of harsh words and unfriendly policies. I feel the lost opportunities and closed doors, the family rejection, the sidelong glances and shouted epithets. I feel suddenly seen, and being seen is always a risk as a fat person. If I acknowledge that you have seen me, so have all those other, harsher critics. It calls up so much hurt, so much need, so much hunger, and so much longing.
Beautiful is hard to hear because it’s hard to admit how deeply I want and need it. Because beautiful, without qualifiers and caveats, is a radical thing to say to me as a fat person. Strangers, family, friends, dates, partners, media, doctors, pundits and politicians all tell me that I am to be rejected, and that being fat means being slovenly, ugly, and usually unloved.
Beautiful, for better or worse, often means loved….
Awad’s debut novel, a series of vignettes all centered on a woman named Lizzie, examines how fear of other people’s perceptions can infiltrate every aspect of a person’s life. MashReads spoke with Awad about her motivation, anti-fairytales, and what being a ‘fat girl’ means to her.
The book is both personal and universal
“Body image is something that I’ve struggled with all my life, and I’ve observed both in myself and in others — friends, women in my family, really everybody I meet—just how deeply this struggle can affect so many aspects of our lives. Especially relationships.
5 Secrets to Stop the Shaming and LOVE Your Bodys-to-stop-body-shaming”>5 Secrets to Stop the Shaming and LOVE Your Body
Body shaming has become something of a social tradition, especially among women, and it perpetuates the idea that people should be judged for physical features. The truth is, when you’re judging physical appearance on how “good” or “bad” it is, all you’re really doing is implying that the way a human looks is more important than what that human does.
“When I was in my 20s, I wanted to be sexually invisible because I didn’t trust my own relationship with my body. I was scared to be seen. Now that I am in my 50s, I dare you not to look!”