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Frequently, I get messages from people — usually cis men who are dating cis women, but not always — asking me what the hell they’re supposed to do when their partner talks negatively about their own body.
“She’s unhappily gained weight since we’ve been together, and I know saying ‘I still think you’re beautiful’ confirms the idea that fat is bad,” they say.
“My boyfriend is shy about not being bigger muscularly, but how can I reassure him that that’s exactly my type without confirming his insecurities?” they say.
“I don’t know how to respond when they talk about needing to go on a diet,” they say.
And I get it.
So while I certainly can’t speak for your partner and their needs, what I can do is give you some ideas that you can mix and match depending on your situation. So let’s start there.
The list of ideas is here.
Plenty of industry experts, psychologists and body-positive activists have criticized the big, bad magazine industry for its undying love of Photoshop.
But hearing it from “real women,” aka not fashion models, on camera is powerful stuff on its own.
A new video by advocacy T-shirt company FCKH8 showcases women of various ages, races and body types giving Photoshop the middle finger, after unashamedly stripping off the brand’s “This Is What a #Feminist Looks Like” shirts and showcasing what real female bodies, untouched by airbrushing, can look like.
I know what you’re thinking: I knew that answer.
Here’s the interesting part: exercise improved people’s feelings about their body even if they didn’t lose weight or achieve noticeable improvements. They just felt better about it.
Read more here.
We are taught very early on in life to base how we see and value ourselves on the opinions of others. How we feel about our body is largely shaped by the way society views it. Though slim as a teenager, as I got older I gained weight. I was criticised for this, with the constant implication that I was being lazy and lacked the necessary self-respect. I was told to treat it as something I should be ashamed of. I then envied the slim women I knew because of the lack of perceived pressure to fit an acceptable societal mould.
Last year, I decided to stop letting my fear of judgment and low self-esteem keep me from having new experiences. I took it upon myself to do a challenge every week that pushed me out of my comfort zone. Two months in, I found myself climbing the stairs to Brass Vixens Pole Dancing and Fitness Studio. There, on Queen Street West, I discovered a wonderful body-positive community. Slowly, my confidence grew as I found myself in a dance and fitness studio that thrived because of the non-competitive, non-judgmental environment they had fostered. More importantly, instructors encouraged everyone to find the dancer within and celebrate their bodies without reservations.
The desire for a so-called “perfect” body isn’t something only women struggle with. Men also face body insecurities, but they’re less likely to seek help and open up about it, according to the National Eating Disorder Awareness website. To get the conversation started about male insecurities, Huffington Post photographer Damon Dahlen spoke to and photographed 19 shirtless men.
Dahlen told Cosmopolitan.com “I along with my editors felt compelled to shine a light on this secret prison of ‘shame’ some of us men live in.” The secret prison Dahlen is talking about was mentioned by one of the men in the essay who said, “I feel like I’m exposing a secret when my shirt comes off.”
1. Being critical of yourself is good but only to an extent, don’t overdo the self criticism bit. Try not to be too mean to yourself especially for the way your body is.
2. Don’t compare your body with someone else’s. Each body has its own pros and cons to deal with.
3. Look in the mirror and point out the good things about the image you see instead of the bad. It’s a good way to begin being body positive.
4. Celebrate your flaws. Stretch marks, pigmentation and tan are proof of all your memorable experiences like childbirth and camping on the hill top. Celebrate those!
5. Don’t take your weight too seriously; it’s simply a number.
The rest are here.
Growing up, I never saw any imagery of fat women who looked like me in the media I was consuming, so today it makes me happy to see so much increased visibility for ladies of all shapes and sizes. I can’t help but thank the myriad of body positive photographers out there who work towards this visibility every day. Not to mention the plus size models who heat up Instagram with body positive photo shoots minute to minute, whose work also inarguably helps normalize the sight of fat bodies.
The notion that fat bodies exist shouldn’t be a revolutionary one, but there are still people out there who think that those who do not fit into rigid societal beauty standards do not deserve to be publicly visible. Visual imagery that challenges what society would deem so-called “imperfections” is, thus, undoubtedly necessary.
Oftentimes, however, I see a lot of praise for the people in front of the camera. While models are certainly crucial to the body positive movement, we shouldn’t forget to give some shine to the individuals behind the lens who dare to capture moments that make people uncomfortable. The work holds the purpose of trumping the way so many of us have been taught to interpret and judge beauty…..
FOR Serena Williams, it’s simple. She doesn’t have time to be bullied.
The tennis icon, currently aiming for a fourth straight US Open crown, shut down the body shamers with a beautiful quote this week.
“It’s me, and I love me. I’ve learned to love me,” Williams told Good Morning America.
“I’ve been like this my whole life and I embrace me. I love how I look. I am a full woman and I’m strong, and I’m powerful, and I’m beautiful at the same time.”
Williams continued: “I don’t have time to be brought down, I’ve got too many things to do. I have grand slams to win, I have people to inspire, and that’s what I’m here for.”